I’ve told her this several times and she always seems to take it in, we agree to be more focused…and that lasts a while until we just fall back again… It’s frustrating.
8 years is long enough to have a pretty good sense of the inevitable cycles and that would, indeed, be a frustrating cycle, even without the expense factor.
is she all there is to your therapy network? in my own case, it took/takes a village to heal. healing is not a monogamous affair. my first shrink was a huge believer in support groups. he encouraged everybody in his therapy groups to think of him as a high dollar reference book. "chockfull of good information, but i never leave the library. it's up to you guys to have each other's backs in the trenches."
to this day, i still lean more heavily on my therapy peers than my high dollar reference books. i still rely on a therapy network rather than a single source.