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Adrian of the UK
Suzetig, I thank you for the kindness in taking time to provide a reply to me.
While I agree there will be cultural differences in what to expect in therapy, I also know that many such countries successfully adapt the therapy to meet their cultural needs, therefore making it more effective to the client / patient.
That said, if therapy is adaptive to cultural needs as suggested by international research then the guidelines should be reasonable within reach.
What psychologists seem to forget is that the human mind and thought process is hugely complex and as vast as space and time. The human mind is indeed infinite and restricted to our own beliefs. Im not saying you or anyone else didn’t know that, but what im saying is that it seems to be a forgotten fact at what your probing into with the mind.
My own problems aside, what beggars belief is what I am reading throughout this board.
What would be helpful is if shrinks (term used loosly) teach us how to self help. How hard can it be when you just mentioned that some courses last only 6 weeks and all we need is a short session to receive the tools necessary to us.
If you all are indeed experts then once assessment is made, you should be able to draw on your own knowledge and expertise to determine what to give the client.
What im also finding as a money spinner is that the number of people who seem to be going to therapy for years (again spending hard earned cash) who are constantly discovering new things that bother them.
What seems odd to me is that you provide a solution by creating another problem.
I’ve lost track on how many people here have said they discovering new things the therapist uncovered. Things that wasn’t a problem until the therapist made it a problem to bring them back to the couch
To give you an example.
I’m an ex serviceman with active duty background. I witnessed horrors beyond the imagination in Kosovo while ordered to stand doing nothing. By the time we could do something, most of the damage had been done.
However, this isn’t the problem to me. I worked through it on my own and eventually the dreams became less frequent and the thoughts became tolerable.
Being messed with as a child… now that really cuts into me still. And while therapy didn’t help me deal with it. It definitely brought up some other issues that wasn’t there before.
So when probing into the minds of others, deal with the problem they went for, don’t be looking to deep to uncover other things. They can always return in the future if such things become a problem. But let that happen naturally without the help of some mind bender.
People four years into therapy and still haven’t touched on the problem? Its quicker and cheaper to become and shrink and self help. And yes I am more than familiar with various ethical codes pertaining to self help amongst therapists.
The period of my abuse was short by comparison to some peoples. If 20 hours of going over and over it doesn’t help, and the little light we follow isn’t working, then no amount of therapy will help.
I know the light aspect of the EMDR therapy is questionable. After multiple studies they still cant determine if that actually works. Equal numbers of patients had similar therapy results in both groups… those who used the light training and those who didn’t.
My point is, there are a whole lot of expectations on therapists and the reality is, its guess work. Don’t waste our time and money with years of therapy. All your doing is bringing up the trauma on a weekly or whatever basis to create anxiety.
Its not humane to put anyone through prolonged sessions of help, making us suffer during the recoloection and then bringing us back down and saying, there, now isn’t that better?
Well yes it is better. Five mins earlier I was in hell that the therapist took me to. How about not revisiting the learning techniques of coping instead. We already know whats bothering us.
Thanks for the reply.
Its rare that people have the courtesy to respond
