I definitely see this in myself. I think most attitudes and approaches can have positives and negatives.I never liked feeling like a victim. I was. But that didn't mean I was going to remain one.
I know my “I am not a victim” thing can be very stubborn and unforgiving of myself but it also means I’ll keep working at what I think will help me. Some people I know have a great deal of emotional understanding of themselves and their situation but struggle at ‘stowing their shit’ so to speak.
Maybe it’s less about having the RIGHT attitude and more about knowing the strengths and weaknesses in how you tend to approach things and playing to that.