Relationship I Am Seriously Going To Lose It! Help!

[sthrngirl]

Yeah retpopo.. Been there done that!

I know I shouldn't be treated this way.. So at this point I just feel like one of those "dumb girls". I could never figure out why he was single when I met him, he just seemed so great. But now I can see why he was single lol.. He made it sound like he ended every relationship he had been in bc they were crazy or annoying but I wonder if that's even true. I don't see how anyone could deal with what I have as far as him being all over the place.

 

[CrazyHorse]

He made it sound like he ended every relationship he had been in bc they were crazy or annoying but I wonder if that's even true

Huge red flag!

 

[sthrngirl]

Yeah.. I don't even know anymore.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

I'm a sufferer.

I think he may just not be that into you. Guys LOVE to chase. They're made for it! You're doing everything for him, paying for dates, initiating contact. How do you know he is into you and you're not there out of convenience? I say back off. If he wants you, make him come to you. If he disappears, he's not that into you. Maybe it IS partly the PTSD keeping him away, but regardless, relationships take work. He's not putting in any work.

 

[sthrngirl]

Yep time will tell. Sick of mixed signals.

 

[nursenurse]

Why are we so willing to put up with such crap because of PTSD? If he tells you he doesn't want you, then he doesn't want you. And if he reverses, I would still say adios. You are trying way too hard, and him not at all. Three months is nothing. Go about living your life, go out with the girls, see other guys, make life for you. You don't know him as well as you think, there are those of us who were married for many years, and still didn't know the creep guy we married. Cut your losses now. There are PTSD folks worth holding on to, of course. This one isn't one of them, at least not for you.

 

[sthrngirl]

Why are we so willing to put up with such crap because of PTSD?

I wonder this myself. I just feel in my heart that he is going to get past this, I think he is lost.. but then again who really knows. It is hard for me to let go because I see him one way and when I'm not around he is another way.