I Decided It Was Time

[Seren]

Things have been better lately. I understand why he has been drinking lately, the anxiety of the baby is getting to both of us. This pregnancy has flown by way faster than the last 4, and the scarey part is that this is a planned C-section, I am not suppose to go into and the way I have been feeling lately makes me think the baby will be here before scheduled. Luckily we see Dr. in morning so we will know more. I have tried to back off a little about his drinking but I do worry that I will go into labor and he knows that I will not get into a car with him if he has been drinking and not only that but if they smell alcohol he will not be allowed in operating room. Me getting mad and nagging him doesn't do any good so I am trying to just let it go after telling him calmly how I feel about it and leave it at that. I am looking forward to meeting you Matt. And thank you again Steph for your post. Well I am at my back pain limit so I am getting off. Hope everyone has a good day or night depending on where you are in the world.

 

[abnvet]

Welcome aboard. Pull up a chair and have a look around.......

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

Things have been better lately......................
.......................... Me getting mad and nagging him doesn't do any good so I am trying to just let it go after telling him calmly how I feel about it and leave it at that..
Hope everyone has a good day or night depending on where you are in the world.

Hi Seren, I'm glad you decided to join the forum, I'd been hoping you would.

Staying calm (keeping the blood pressure down), as much as you can, is a good way to handle things especially at this time. Hope all went well at the Dr.

Sending all best wishes to you and Tex. xx

 

[Seren]

I just wanted to say that I hope none of these posts sounded like I was bashing Tex in anyway. That was not my intention at all. I will not post to this forum anymore regarding him, if I have something to vent about I will do it on the supporters forum. Thank you all for being so supportive and understanding.

 

[nomedic1]

Never came across as that Seren

 

[Jimmy1]

We as veterans with PTSD know full well that we can be complete arseholes. So if Tex needs a bashing, then bash him. lmao.

Just as you as carers need thick skins to deal with our every day moods, we as veterans have the same. However, if things are not going well, we just put out our spikes and tell you to go away.

Seren, I hope the last part of your pregnancy goes well and wish the best for the little one.
I know Tex is proud and looking forward to it and he is probably a little scared that he will give the wrong impression to the little one.

He is a great dad I know. That is one thing us veterans like is little children. They are innocent and show unconditional love. Just like our pets.

Just waffling now. Say a big gidday from the Aussie.

 

[wife of]

Oh hunny,you have said NOTHING that is out of line,you should read some of the deeply personal rants that some women have put on in the past,the difference is they dont usualy come asking for insight , they just full on bag thier guys out,It is clear you are here to get support for Both of you and it is obv that you have had a warm welcome on the walls,I dont think you are out of line at all and if any one has been touchy over anything you have said then quite frankly it is thier problem and not yours,If a raw nerve has been touched,maybe by someone not liking that they see a reflection of thier own behaviour,then frankly,they need to put thier BIG BOYS PANTSon and DEAL WITH IT....Sue

 

[willis williams]

I'm fine with it I just warned her what would happen if she did outside the supporters section. I know I've been f*cking up lately meds are a mess can't get them fixed because little Taylan is coming and I have a tendency to hit the sauce when I feel out of control. I am scared as hell about them cutting Seren open and the fact that I ain't sure if I can bond with my son. So fear does weird shit to a fellow with or without PTSD. I've been acting a bit better and I will have my head on right for the little ones arrivel. Love you Seren

 

[Ned]

Hello Seren, you'll be OK here because all the other halves can help & do, and all the bloke halves basically want to look after people anyway! We just forget about intensity levels, a lot.........

 

[wife of]

you will bond with your son tex,kids have a way of creeping into your soul without you having to do anything about it,fear is not always a bad thing it teaches us to be cautious....

 

[Steph_F]

Willis, good for you!! Even moms worry if we will bond with our babies sometimes. The best way to bond with a newborn is simply to care for them, change them, feed them, rock them, sing to them, spend time with them. They can't help with bonding with the people that they interact with the most, you don't even have to do anything special...just be there. C-sections are scary, that is for sure, but I'm sure Seren will be just fine, a bit woozey maybe, but you will never know how much she will appricate you sitting next to her in the operating room smiling and talking calmly to her. Tell her how much you love her and are proud of her...hell, write it all down and just read it to her, she'll love that! :) A great thing about c-sections babies is that they usually don't have those coneheads that freak me out! haha! Just remember that Seren will need help carrying and lifting things for a while, time to flex those Army pipes for your girl! ;) I'm really excited for you too. Life moves on, huh? Babies are born everyday and soon yours will be here too!

 

[Seren]

I love you too baby! And believe me I am very nervous about the whole thing too. Thank you for posting that on here.