General I f..ing hate my marine boyfriend' flaky behavior~ ptsd

[Deleted member 45360]

When talking these actual PTSD relationships, is the issue really about sex though? Leaving h...

He once told me, when I asked him if its just about sex for him. He said, sex is easy, but its the feeling thats hard to find. I guess that was hes way of telling me he really loves me and the intimacy is what keeps us not giving up on each other.

 

[blackemerald1]

You are one year into a long distance relationship and it's not working for you.

You have talked about it, thought about it and know he has untreated PTSD.

If he really wants this relationship and he understands that it cannot stay as it currently is because it's hurting you because he cannot or will not get treatment, then does he really want a long term relationship..with you?

Maybe you are wanting something you cannot have? Maybe he is too?

 

[Deleted member 44240]

I think people these days are too hyper sexualized from TV an movies.
I mean seriously I haven't m...

I completely understand. You don’t know who you’re meeting these days because it is so easy to become disposable due to social media and other communication formats. Not everyone is up to no good, but it’s so hard to tell who is and who isn’t. You want to trust people and believe the person in front of you for who they claim to be, but then you’re surprised. I’ve learned now to just take things super slow and give a person a lot of time to prove who they say they are; I just don’t want anymore surprises, not at this time in my life.

 

[Never_falter2]

Errr.... maybe I do not see the point because I am from another culture.... but how about good ol’ meeting people OFF LINE, like Meeting a partner through mutual friends or at a dancing or sports event, learning about them and their families before you start dating and so on....
Is this not done in the US? I am honestly curious because all that stuff I hear from the US sounds like what only a very small fraction of the population does where I am from.
(So sorry for off topic. Should I start another thread)

 

[Deleted member 44240]

Starting another thread might be a good idea.

 

[Never_falter2]

Yep, started one in „social“. Hope it is not offensive.

 

[blackemerald1]

But.. @Never_falter has a point. This is a long distance relationship and except for carefully arranged meet ups, @Chlowe Girl is not seeing the guy on a regular or impromptu basis. So this must make it very hard to know what is really going on in the day to day stuff. He could be telling her one thing and doing something entirely different. It's all so constructed...with keeping @Chlowe Girl distanced, emotionally and geographically. @Chlowe Girl do you meet his friends? Do you know his background...all the the things that help you work out what his real life situation is with other people? How connected are you in his life? Do you know a lot about him to be kept in a 'holding pattern' as you are now? Just wondering....