General I Hope That These Words From Someone May Help Fellow Carers....

[Sunshine71]

Hi everyone

I am attending a CBT education event – once a week for 6 weeks. It shows you how many people are suffering– each week there are over 100 people around.

A asked a question that showed that my stress was coimg from dealing with being a ‘carer’. Afterwards a nice older guy came up and wanted to talk with me. He wanted to share what was going right and going wrong with his marriage – so we could learn from their ‘mistakes’.

He said that the main things are….

Encouragement – not patronizing. Encouragement to say that what the PTSD person sufferer is doing is appreciated and well received.

Having space as a career – you have to have something for you.

Also what helped him as he lost his job was going to college – he needed to get out and about.

He mentioned that he had a lot of course work out and his wife cleared it all away as they had people coming round. He lost track of everything that he was doing and found this so stressful that he was down for days.

I hope that these words from someone who is depressed and sufferers also from PTSD may help fellow carers…..

With love

Sunshine

 

[Tinyflame]

I can only think encouragement and kindness and being safe to express yourself could be helpful for both carers and sufferers. And gratitude (expressed) for all that carers do or 'overlook'.And to let a 'carer' know it's ok to get angry, depressed, frustrated etc. To try to anticipate if one's actions would cause the other person stress and to ask first.
To put the work down and just have 'no pressure' time together.

Thank you Sunshine, Hugs-

 

[discarded]

Sometimes I just wish it could be about me, the carer, and all about the PTSD sufferer. Is that being selfish?

 

[amethist]

No its not selfish discarded. PTSD effect supporters just as much as it can the sufferer.