Relationship I Just Want Him To Know Im Here

[Warrior1987]

I'm learning more about PTSD and it's becoming more real to me now and I'm starting to know all his symptoms. Sometime I feel like he only says he loves me because he just wants someone so he can forget about his ex fiancé. I feel as though he still loves her and like he has no connection with me, at first though we had a great connection and we had things to talk about and this was way before I even knew about his PTSD but now that I know about it more now I'm realizing all these things. He did leave me about a month ago and now he's back in my life but he's so distant from me, I hate people who distance themselves from me this is why I left my last boyfriend of almost 3 years because he kept ignoring me. I really wanna make this relationship work I don't wanna leave him because of his disease, I wanna stay with him and support him through his hard times but I just don't know how I don't know how to be with another man that's going to distance himself from me. I don't want to feel as though I'm alone even though I have someone who says they love me.

 

[nursenurse]

So many red flags, Warrior. Trust your gut. If he is giving you the feeling he is saying "I love you" just to forget, well in my eye it isn't PTSD, and you should be listening to the part of you that is saying that. If you feel he still loves her, then he is showing you signs that he does. He's returned and is distant. Perhaps because you are convenient. The words "I love you" are the most misused words in the world, and I think sometimes we are hard wired to believe them even if they are not true.

Don't let his PTSD be an excuse for making you a rebound. Step back a bit, don't be so available if you already are. Good luck. There is no shame in saying you can't handle a PTSD relationship. It doesn't make you weak. It just means you know yourself. But still loving an ex while in a relationship with another? Rebound, towards you. And not PTSD.