I Need Help, I Am Asking For Help, Still Not Getting Any... And Neither Is My Husband.

[Whimsy]

Hi,
I am here because 6 years ago my husband proposed and I accepted. We were both military (I am still in) I knew he had baggage when I married him, child abuse, spousal abuse, and PTSD from Afghanistan. You name PTSD symptoms he has them or had them. In the 5 years of marriage we have overcome suicidal urges, alcohol abuse, drug abuse, cutting. He has never been abusive, but I know that in large part it is because I made it clear that that was the number one deal breaker, and his fear of losing me is bigger than the rest of his fears. Every other symptom on the list we are still dealing with every damn day. I am his life line, and I feel like I am being drowned, I am his crutch but I don't know how to get him on his feet without knocking him flat. I am seeing a psychriatrist while trying to be his psychiatrist. I tell the counselor my problems and he is now convinced I am bipolar. I am not bipolar unless you can get to be bipolar by being completely burnt out, and frantic ALL the time. I can't let my emotions effect my job, and I can't take my emotions home. I don't think I am being a good job as a soldier or a wife anymore, or even what that is, what I am doing right what I am doing wrong All I know for sure is that I really need help

 

[intothelight]

Hi Whimsy,

Welcome to the PTSD Forum. Sounds like you are just way too overloaded right now. But I think you will find this a great place for information, support, and just a place where you can let it out. There is a great section for Supporters and many military wives and girl friends that will relate to what you are experiencing.

Please take care of yourself, and put yourself first.

Take care.
Debbie

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

(((Whimsy))) Hope a virtual hug helps! Wow, you've had a rough marriage so far! It sounds like he is not in any therapy or on meds? Such a heavy load you are carrying!

I'm glad you have found this site, it is amazing! One day at at time, and living by Faith are a couple of my coping tools!

Welcome, and hope to see you around the Forum!

 

[jo may]

Hi Whimsy,

I just really wanted to give you a (((Hug))) and welcome you to the forum.

It can be hard work and very tiring being a carer of someone with PTSD.
My husband finds it hard going with me, and i call him my anchor, which must be hard knowing your keeping a person going.

My husband doesn't feel I'm getting the help I need but it takes time.
If you really don't feel your getting the help and support you both need see someone else, go above yout doctor if you have to.

Most importantly you have to find time for yourself to let your hair down, as you bruning yourself out is no good to either of you.