I Need Some Ideas From Others

[recoveringfromptsd]

@Lola Nocheprieta I tend to function in black and white, so calculating risk would be very hard maybe even harder than allow the risk in the first place. I am trying to not even get into sorting out how much one can be trusted. I am Trying to address this at the "learn to trust" and distress tolerance level of things. Instead of weighing the persons risk to me, trying to learn to trust be talking the risks of trust. Its the latter that is the most difficult. As it means going out of my comfort zone, and hoping for the best so people can earn my trust.

trying to measure peoples trustworthiness is something already do, but I do it in a way to determine how close I will let them in near my walls of my comfort zone. So even when they are trustworthy in my mind they are potentially not, sort of I like I have everyone on probation forever. Like saying "you seem ok but I still can't trust you so I will let you be a little bit closer".

What really hurts where I am at with all this today, is it hurts and is a heavy on me to always feel a human contact will eventually hurt me.

 

[The Albatross]

Confidence, though comes from learning how to assess risks, it is a solid strategy when you can get there.