Dom Violence I Still Care...

[trying2movefwd]

Soon it will be our daughter's 10th heavenly birthday. He was her Father I was her Mother. She has two living siblings also OUR children. He lost custody due to his choices, he has supervised visitation only...He destroyed our family and shredded to pieces my already broken mind and heart...But I still care about him. I won't go back, but I get concerned, how is he doing? Can he survive all these consequences? Will he be okay? Can he make it through this day alone?...Why do I think like this?

 

[Whyteferret]

@trying2movefwd
I think it's normal in a way to care about him or be concerned. You most likely had some good times as well as bad. And he is the father of the kids.

It's not your responsibility to make sure he's ok or can handle consequences. He's an adult He'll have to make his own decisions. You can't fix him and you can't let him drag you into trying.

Your responsibility is to your kids and yourself. Their (and your) safety and well being is what's important.

 

[mary1979]

Happy Birthday to your angel <3

I struggled with this also, in respect to my children's father who's been absent from their lives now for almost 2 years.

In many ways id become his mother, care giver over the 15 years we were together.
Thats not a bond easily broken, no matter the pain he caused us.

The shared loss of a child would only make that harder in so many ways in sure.
Nobody knows your pain like he.
And nobody understands your grief like he.

My heart goes out to you x