Nicolette
Supporter Admin
I feel the need to write this thread based on a lot of reactions I have received here over the years.
The problem with PTSD is it is a very selfish illness at times and some Carers become just that (a Carer) and cater to their Sufferers needs...or what they think are their needs.
To me the fundamental thing I see as problem is through this process Carers (more so women) actually end up pandering their partners to the point of enabling the illness....doing more harm than good.
It is important to remember when reading here that everyone has a common goal - to co-exist with their Sufferer in the best way possible. No-one intentionally says anything to hurt your feelings.
This all being said.........If you receive a response from another Carer and Sufferer and you don't like it you do have the right not to take it on board as it is only opinions. However, I do ask you to remember that some members speak from experience and while you may not like what you are hearing, they may be genuinely trying to help you so I suggest you question yourself as to what it is that you don't like. Sometimes it is may be that you don't want to hear what you know is the truth.
Personally I feel bad telling someone to get out of relationship as I am sure they went into it with the best intentions. I also know how lonely it can be being on your own but before you logout and walk away from the forum due to not liking the responses you have received....give yourself a chance to really digest what has been said rather than have a knee jerk reaction.
Not everyone is right but sometimes there is that chance that someone's good advice may help you change your life for the better.
The problem with PTSD is it is a very selfish illness at times and some Carers become just that (a Carer) and cater to their Sufferers needs...or what they think are their needs.
To me the fundamental thing I see as problem is through this process Carers (more so women) actually end up pandering their partners to the point of enabling the illness....doing more harm than good.
It is important to remember when reading here that everyone has a common goal - to co-exist with their Sufferer in the best way possible. No-one intentionally says anything to hurt your feelings.
This all being said.........If you receive a response from another Carer and Sufferer and you don't like it you do have the right not to take it on board as it is only opinions. However, I do ask you to remember that some members speak from experience and while you may not like what you are hearing, they may be genuinely trying to help you so I suggest you question yourself as to what it is that you don't like. Sometimes it is may be that you don't want to hear what you know is the truth.
Personally I feel bad telling someone to get out of relationship as I am sure they went into it with the best intentions. I also know how lonely it can be being on your own but before you logout and walk away from the forum due to not liking the responses you have received....give yourself a chance to really digest what has been said rather than have a knee jerk reaction.
Not everyone is right but sometimes there is that chance that someone's good advice may help you change your life for the better.