How To Deal With People You Don't Like

[Deleted member 20978]

I prefer Laurie's approach. Better karma.

 

[Upside Down Eagle]

I think being brutally straightforward is the best approach but also I don´t want to disrespect him, so maybe I´ll just tell him I don´t really feel a bond between us, if he asks. :)

 

[Deleted member 20978]

Sorry I got lost between the generalized title of your thread and the specific instance. I wasn't suggesting telling him to f*ck off. But yeah, don't not say what you actually feel, gets into passive aggressive territory and nobody wins. Saying you're not comfortable getting together or something, then if he gets pushy, plan B. Sounds like a tricky situation, good luck to ya.

 

[Changing4Best]

I hope you did not go see him (I did not read all the replies, just your first note). I think he sounds like really bad news. This is the kind of person to avoid at all costs! Meeting with him could only have lead to disaster. I think that if only one person had talked badly about him, you might question that. However, when several folks have warned you about how much of a jerk he is, I think it is wise to listen to them and avoid him completely.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

My daughter grew up not knowing my sister who suffers from many, many mental disorders and since her daughter died in October she was obsessed with talking to my daughter who does not want anything to do with her so I was frank and told my sister that and she seemed to accept it ok.

I hope that you can find the best way to disconnect from this guy. He sounds very scary and troubled.

 

[Anrish]

I agree with all the others here. If you don't want to meet him, then don't. Only because there's some blood relation doesn't mean that you're in any responsibility or guilty. He was never in your life before and you didn't miss him. I don't think that you need one more negative add-on. Tell him that you don't see him as family, that he's a stranger for you and you don't see a reason for a meeting. You're a wonderful person and not guilty in any way only because he has the opinion to show up in your life after such a long time. Go your way, we're all with you. :hug:

...and I personally don't like selfish people like him who abandon their family and just connect with them when it's convenient. You don't need that.

 

[Bloomy]

I would have met him in a safe place just to confirm for myself that it is how it is. And then leave quikly with no guilt just assured that there is reason why people talk.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Sometimes I just wish I could push the delete button with certain people.:eek: