I want to preface this with a personal message.
@Anarchy I respect your intelligence and your beliefs, though I don't always agree with them. I don't know the details of your past, but I am aware that you have had to suffer at the hands of authorities that abused their position. With this in mind, I am going to be far more tactful than I likely otherwise would be.
Our own internal states NEVER justify unjust or disproportional treatment of others.
The simple fact is, she hasn't. Even phoning police, she still wouldn't be. If you look at her earlier post about this issue, she has gone above and beyond what she should have done. She was or is, under no obligation to provide warning to someone about their criminal behaviour. She has in fact been very neighbourly.
Realistically, is this guy or his actions any threat to you or your daughter?
Yes. They most certainly are. This is an illegal use of a controlled substance. The very important questions that should be asked are not "why is he using it?"
But, "Who is he buying it from?, how is he getting the money?"
The person selling it to him could very possibly be dangerous, and the method of acquiring the funds could incite violence towards this man. Putting Heather and her daughter in the line of fire is unethical. People have absolutely died for a little bit of pot. Some sadly, have been people who were in no way involved with the situation. They just had the misfortune of living nearby, some have been children, some have been infants. Look it up, they aren't difficult cases to look up. Why should she be accepting of this (admittedly remote) possibility?
he comes across as a not very functional young guy, who takes something to get some temporary relief from his inner demons...
You know as well as I do that self medication with mind altering substances, legal or otherwise is an unhealthy behaviour. It's not dealing with problems, it's burying them. Doesn't matter if it's alcohol, marijuana, heroine or methamphetamine.
there are people on this forum who have more strongly held misgivings against medicating our problems
Using a substance combined with therapy, for the purpose of establishing a better quality of life, is good.
Sitting on the settee, getting gooned all day every day, is not. Doesn't matter what substance is being used.
Someone's choice to medicate or not - is theirs, based on the best info available to them.
This guy lives in the United States, he has access to an almost unlimited supply of information, as well as cutting edge medical and psychiatric care. Sorry, but I just cannot accept that as a reason.
pot should be condemned because pot is bought from criminals
Honestly, I firmly believe it should be legalised. I don't want to use it myself, but I think it would be a better alternative than alcohol, even just to drown yourself in.
But if the source is illegal, then yes it should be condemned. There is no way to know what is in it, how old it is, who's arse it was in while coming across the border. There is no form of quality control. You get a bad bag of pot, what are you going to do? Call the police to complain that your drugs were subpar?
your triggers and your fears.
Please ask yourself this as well. I am not saying this in anger or to point back at you, but please, really think about this.
why should you inflict that on the poor guy because of your internal triggers and your internal fears?
If when she was doing the walk through prior to signing the lease. The landlord had told her that cigarette smoking was allowed in the building, but she decided to move in anyway despite her being a non-smoker. But then new guy rents another suite, then chooses to smoke cigarettes, as is allowed. If Heather then threw a fit and complained about another tennant, exercising his rights. I'd agree with you.
But he's not exercising his rights, he's infringing on her rights to a safe home to raise her child in.
In practice, if the cops do show up, they're very likely to seriously terrify the guy
This isn't her problem. This is not insulin. He will not drop dead from a lack of THC in his body. He is not forced to commit a crime for his survival, he's actively choosing to risk legal repercussions for what is at best, an unhealthy coping strategy.
Asset forfeiture laws allow cops to stage a sting, then confiscate the building from your landlord and to evict anyone in it
If the landlord is running a drug den, why should they be allowed to keep it? Again this is not her problem.
Incidentally
what if the guy already has a couple of BS convictions?
If this guy is so concerned about the legal ramifications of a felony drug conviction, he needs to stop committing drug offenses.
Heather on the other hand, has a moral and legal duty, to do whatever is necessary to protect her child. She has no obligation to protect the freedom of a criminal. Irregardless of how unpopular the law he is breaking may be.
I would like suggest one thing to you Anarchy. You of course don't have to listen to me, but hear me out. I think that this may not be the most appropriate thread to be discussing this particular issue. I know it's important to you, but if it's only serving to distress the OP, maybe it's best left alone for now, or taken to a new thread?
