Upside Down Eagle
Diamond Member
Okay.
I will probably bring this up tomorrow with my therapist as well but I´m curious what you guys think about this situation.
- My granddad (78) is in the country until Friday. I never really knew this man, because since I was born, my grandmother was married to her second husband (whom I saw as my granddad). My actual granddad (so, this one) lives abroad and I haven´t seen him in years (more than five, probably around seven).
- He isn´t a particularly easy personality. From what I´ve heard, he behaves like an ass around everyone. When people lend him their house (so he has somewhere to stay), he doesn´t pay rent, he makes unasked changes to the house, he doesn´t clean up after himself and gets angry when the owners of the house ask that he leave for a bit so they can have privacy.
- He makes really, really weird and innappropriate remarks. He made a pass at my cousin (his grandson)´s girlfriend. He thinks its normal to sleep naked with your kids in the same bed. He watches all kinds of messed up pornography; he used to hit my dad (his son) when my dad was a kid. And my dad hates him.
I only know him through all these stories. Never have had an interest in getting to know this man. For me, hearing all this is enough not to like him. But now he really wants to see me and he´s kind of laying a guilt trip on me, in the sense of "I will leave Friday and if you want to see me we must meet before that time".
I tried to go see him today but I was only doing it out of a sense of obligation. I freaked out halfway because I already felt very stressed and this pressure made it worse, and I went back home.
So I´m not sure what to do now. I don´t like the guy. But it´s kind of cruel to say that to his face, like "guess what I dislike you because people talked about you behind your back".
What do you think?
I will probably bring this up tomorrow with my therapist as well but I´m curious what you guys think about this situation.
- My granddad (78) is in the country until Friday. I never really knew this man, because since I was born, my grandmother was married to her second husband (whom I saw as my granddad). My actual granddad (so, this one) lives abroad and I haven´t seen him in years (more than five, probably around seven).
- He isn´t a particularly easy personality. From what I´ve heard, he behaves like an ass around everyone. When people lend him their house (so he has somewhere to stay), he doesn´t pay rent, he makes unasked changes to the house, he doesn´t clean up after himself and gets angry when the owners of the house ask that he leave for a bit so they can have privacy.
- He makes really, really weird and innappropriate remarks. He made a pass at my cousin (his grandson)´s girlfriend. He thinks its normal to sleep naked with your kids in the same bed. He watches all kinds of messed up pornography; he used to hit my dad (his son) when my dad was a kid. And my dad hates him.
I only know him through all these stories. Never have had an interest in getting to know this man. For me, hearing all this is enough not to like him. But now he really wants to see me and he´s kind of laying a guilt trip on me, in the sense of "I will leave Friday and if you want to see me we must meet before that time".
I tried to go see him today but I was only doing it out of a sense of obligation. I freaked out halfway because I already felt very stressed and this pressure made it worse, and I went back home.
So I´m not sure what to do now. I don´t like the guy. But it´s kind of cruel to say that to his face, like "guess what I dislike you because people talked about you behind your back".
What do you think?
