If You Tell Your T You Are Scared Of Losing Her Will It Actually Happen?

[falling_wave]

I think that perhaps her not charging you is part of the reason you are feeling insecure, it's a lapse of boundaries, for all the right reasons - but without that framework, you are becoming unsure of where you stand. I think that needs a discussion.

I think I am unsure or actually I think she would still be open to me calling if I need to but I would feel guilty. On the other hand I am broke so can't offer to pay. It wouldn't work. I am going to talk to her not about money but about feeling that I will lose her tomorrow through a journal entry. I am feeling a bit better this new day so I think I probably just need to trust her and the process more.

 

[Wanting a life]

I can relate. My minister is moving halfway across the worId in a couple months and I've let myself count on him as a "therapist" and as one of the very very few "safe" men in my life. I hate it but don't seem to be able to not be depressed or to not be "needy." I know he wants the best for me so the end result is that it seems like when we're together we just make each other sadder.

 

[falling_wave]

Just wanted to give you guys an update. I journaled all my fears and feelings including flashback and fear of losing T and brought it in to my appointment. She read it and when she was done she was teared up and very with me in my pain and understanding. She just said that was powerful. We talked about some of my fears and she reminded me that she would be with me on this journey and that she understands that symptoms can be absent and work not done. We can take our time to make sure that it really is done. I thanked her for helping me through so much and giving me the confidence to take a step that is very scary to me And she actually gave me a hug. It was so healing every part and I am feeling much stronger. I think my trust for her is even stronger if that's possible.

 

[Jane.l]

Well done for being so brave, your T sounds lovely. If I have learnt something in therapy it's to keep being as open and honest about the relationship as possible.

 

[Sandstone]

Well done for being brave enough to discuss it all. I'm glad it was resolved so well

She sees me not for money now but because she wants to continue working with me so I think if we ended I wouldn't be able to ask her to see me when I'm struggling for free again.

Have you thought that if you had ended therapy it would be because you were much better. And if you were much better, you might be able to work, and have more money.

 

[falling_wave]

@stenni, I already work and get money but have too many bills that I have to manage on my own. I would nend to finish my Masters Degree and move up in my career for that to work and then again I'd be starting to pay my student loans so it not really an option.

 

[Sandstone]

Sorry - that's me making assumptions.