I'm New Here, PTSD Due To Motorcycle Accident.

[starmack07]

Hello,
It is so nice to know this site exists. I was a passenger on a motorcycle three years ago, my boyfriend was the driver and he died at the scene lying next to me. The PTSD symptoms developed about six months later, and since then I have been waiting for them to go away on their own. It's taken a while for me to realize that is not going to happen. I cannot afford to see a therapist and there are no support groups in my area. People seem to think this is something you can control, and I've tried but have found that the fear and anxiety at times are uncontrollable and seemingly unwarranted. Does anyone else have issues regarding unreasonable and debilitating fear of loved ones dying or something terrible happening to them? Any advice on how to overcome this particular problem would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

 

[cherryblossom]

Hello starmack,

Welcome to the forum. What a terrible thing to have happened to you. My heart goes out to you. PTSD can be controlled and managed, with lots of help, support and hard work. It's a shame that you cannot get a therapist to help you at this time. However, I hope that the information and support on this site will help you to move onwards. I think your fear, in these circumstances is a completely human reaction. Take some time to read around the site, and learn about PTSD. I, personally cannot relate to your debilitating fear of loved ones dying, but I do understand debilitating fear and anxiety. It takes time to change the way we think about things, especially when your world is shattered, which I'm sure yours was. Have a look at the articles here, and maybe the literature section to see if there are any 'self help' books, which may suit your circumstances. This might be an option to look at, since you don't have a therapist. CBT workbooks and the like, can help to change the way you think.

Anyway, just some initial thoughts for you,
Take care
CB

 

[intothelight]

Hi Starmack07,

Welcome to the forum. As you read through the posts, you'll find a lot of people have elevated levels of fear and worry. I know that I frequently view things from a worst case scenario viewpoint.

There are many articles that contain techniques that can help reduce the fear and worry. In addition, members provide wonderful feedback based upon their own experiences.

Take care.

ITL

 

[starmack07]

Thank you for the encouragement, I appreciate it!

 

[hope4]

You Are Not Alone.

Hi there, I too lost someone I love, my daughters father, suddenely.

I also was involved in a car accident that has left me disabled, so I feel some of the same things you do. I constantly worry and have fear every single day that someone will die. It is hard to control. The only way I can deal with it and rationalize it is that it is something I cannot control. I mean we seriously cannot control when someone is to die.

I joined this site recently like you for support.

My docter just put me on Seroquel to help with the negative thinking and I believe it is helping. I find it takes the edge of the worries and anxiety and the negative thoughts seem to be less. Have you been to your docter? Maybe he has some suggestions, also grief councelling helped me alot and they are free usually. The funeral homes offer free councelling for grief which I did and it helped. Also get your hands on any books you can to deal with ptsd and grief as I found that reading them I began to realize that I was normal for what I went through and even that does help.

Take care and hang in there.