Im New Here

[jenjen81]

My name is jen I just would like to say hello.

I'm a wife of an army veteran and he suffers from severe ptsd and a tbi traumatic brain injury I'm suffering too because I dont know what to say or do with everything turning into a argument or a fight.

I like to get out of the house and do things as a family but he doesnt like big crowds, when we go and there are big crowds its thrown back at me for even going and maybe we should have done it in the first place.

I'm dealing with some issues myself but I feel I dont have a support system or friends I can vent to.

I'm hurting on the inside, thats my story thanks.

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[Army_Brat_88]

J -

There are a crop of us in the boat with you ok? I already know a great group of girls who will give you plenty of support, so don't even bother getting down about at least THAT anymore! :) I know they'll be on here shortly to back me up. Also, do a search on "combat ptsd" - many of us have used that phrase in our writings, and start reading away. Our stories are all basically the same, so don't think you're alone or the only in pain. We're on here, and we're all going to help each other out. You've now got friends to vent to - so vent away!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

-AB

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Welcome to the forum :)

Hope you enjoy your stay so to speak.

 

[intothelight]

Hi Jen,

Welcome to the PTSD Forum. There is an entire section here for Supporters, full of information about PTSD. But most importantly, there is support here for the people to help a loved one with this disorder.

Wishing you the best.
Debbie

 

[Froggie]

Hi Jen, welcome to the forum. I'm always so happy when a supporter finds us as it gives them time to vent out and talk out their thoughts and what they go through. As Deb mentionned, there is a supporters section which will help. And as Brat mentionned, you will also meet many other army spouses here who will share their stories and advice ... and listen to your story. Keep posting.

 

[Navy Spouse]

Hi Jen, Sorry you have to be here, I know how it feels. My husband returned from Afganistan almost two months ago and is suffering from combat PTSD. We've been married 17 years and I never expected the distance between us, its heart breaking. I found this site because I to felt alone and didn't feel I had anyone to talk to. I play the role of supportive wife when I talk to friends and family as a way of protecting him because I know they no nothing about PTSD and I don't want them to look at him poorly. I believe they would begin to if I vented to them. So I come here to vent. Sadly there are more military spouses joining daily. Even though I'm going through it myself I feel for each and everyone.

It's sad that you don't feel you can go places as a family. "We" wait so long for our spouses to come home so we can be a family again. I don't know if its possible where you live but we are fortunate to have bike trails and hiking trails that don't draw large crowds and being outside and getting exercise really helps.

If you were to read my threads, I'm beginning to sound like a broken record but I want to suggest a book that helped me understand the feelings my husband is having and why he reacts in the way he does. "Courage after fire" It also has suggestions at the end of each chapter for family and friends. A book my husband found helpful is "Once a warrior, always a warrior." ( I feel like I should be getting some payment from the authors of these books as much as I've listed these titles. LOL) I was able to get these books from the library.

Come here to vent. It does help and you have plenty of company that feels the way you do. Sending hugs.

 

[LoyalOne]

jenjen, my best guy friend has the CPTSD/TBI combo as well. It is extra hard when you don't know if it is him, the PTSD or his injured brain talking. It makes 'normal' things confusing as hell. Credit and honor to you for backing him up so soundly. (((jen)))

 

[Morning]

Hi Jenjen, I am new here today too... I am a service connected vet and military widow! I have many friends who spouses have to deal with thier PTSD... Hold in there, let these wonderful ladies help, your husband is lucky to have a supporting wife! And thank you for your service. The military spouse is the one who is usually forgotten the most!

 

[Jodi]

Hi Jen Jen,

I know how alone you can feel I feel so alone too. I just joined this forum yesterday and I am already feeling more love here than I have felt the past few month in my own home. I too am struggling with everything turning into an argument with my man and his ptsd. I choose my words carefully and yet they still seem to cause fights. He always tells me that I don't respect him because if I did then I wouldn't be making him so mad all the time. I try so hard and he just doesn't see that. It sucks. Luckily today things have been good but it is so hard for me to enjoy it because I am just waiting for him to snap at something that I do or that our children do.

I am sorry that you are going through this. It is so hard and I know that. If you need anything I am here for you!