Sufferer Im New - Wanting To Learn To Trust

[rocket2919]

I was in an abusive relationship in college, dropped out to get away from it. I was assaulted, beaten, raped, harassed many times. I stayed too long. I was fine for two years. Now developing PTSD symptoms, started when a guy asked me out (never went out with him).

After a few months I just figured out yoga every day has helped with stress. been better about breathing during flashbacks. Flashbacks happen daily, getting used to that. Hardest part is trusting people. I don't know how to open up anymore. I'm always paranoid about people. That paranoia has made my friendships suffer; therefore, I don't have many close friends.

Any tips on stopping flashbacks, help to realize emotional flashbacks, help to overcome nervousness around people would be appreciated.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Hi Rocket, and welcome to the forum!

I have emotional flashbacks and they're the worst....grrrr. Five years post diagnosis and I just figured out yet another trigger for my emotional flashbacks. Pete Walker has a great website on how to deal with emotional flashbacks.

 

[macbeth]

Hi and welcome.
My ptsd developed after a violent marriage. Trusting people is probably the biggest challenge I've faced too. I also get really nervous around people. The only way I was able to get used to people after my marriage broke down was to go to a church my aunt invited me to. People were really welcoming and supportive. I guess it was just that first step I needed to take to get out into the community that I was isolated from for so long. I am wondering if you go to a yoga class or practice at home on your own because that could be a way of connecting to people in a safe environment.

 

[Hashi]

Welcome to the forum, rocket.

I've always used visualisation and imagery to prevent flashbacks. In @macbeth's introduction thread she mentions the book Invisible Heroes, which is a good explanation of imagery and why it works. I have to say, though, I don't like Belleruth Naparstek's suggested visualisations. I make up my own.

As you find your way round the forum I think you'll find a lot of information about the things you've mentioned. You can also start your own threads on different aspects.

I hope you'll find much help and support here.

 

[macbeth]

The book that @Hashi mentioned as did I, is also great for understanding your symptoms and why they happen.

 

[intothelight]

Hi Rocket,

Welcome to the forum! :)

Trust is not only something we give, but it is also something that people earn. After trusting someone at the deepest levels and to be hurt by them, it is perfectly normal to become wary. It is hard to reconnect when the world doesn't feel safe. Take your time and reconnect with people a little at a time in places that you feel safe. It will get easier as time goes on.

There is also a related site that you may find helpful: MyDomesticViolence.com.

Debbie

 

[Nicholasgnames]

Hi Rocket,

Welcome to the forum! :)

Trust is not only something we give, but it is also something that people earn.

Debbie

This is important. I joined today for the same reason rocket did. Looking forward to sharing with you all.

 

[Tinyflame]

Hi rocket welcome. :)

 

[Notsowild]

Hi @rocket2919 ... I'm going through the same thing. My psychologist gave me the book " Life after Trauma" and the trust chapter has been the hardest for me. I will see him tomorrow to work on this.

Welcome to the forum. I has been a lifesaver for me.