Relationship I'm So Upset

[Glara]

So he just added another girl to his Facebook page. She tells him he's looking good and he offers to take her shooting. I'm so upset. I'm so done. That's what hurts, that's the stuff I can't handle.

 

[shimmerz]

(((((((((((Glara)))))))))))

I am so very sorry......

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Glara, I'm so sorry. You deserve to be treated better.

 

[Anarchy]

Wot Solara said

 

[scout86]

Sorry Glara! You gave it your best and that's all you can do. (I'm going to predict that the new relationship won't last long ether.)

 

[Glara]

I don't know if it's a relationship. I won't be able to find out either. I shut down my Facebook account. I won't be able to see anything anymore and he won't be able to see what I'm up to. If he wasn't truthful about being suicidal and having ptsd or if he was but was just playing on my emotions, I just can't believe it. I can't understand how if someone had so much trauma in their life that they want to die, that's they could use that to play with someone's emotions. To instill that kind of fear in someone? And if he doesn't have any of things? Could someone make this shit up?

 

[Sighs]

Hugs if you accept them.

Good on you for shutting down your Facebook. Time to focus on you not him.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Glara, I know it is hard to deal with all of this. I don't think he was making it all up. I think that it really can be hard to understand the PTSD mind. I can identify with a lot of other stories I read in that relationships are good and fine while they are in the fun stage, but not so much fun when the pressure is put on as at that point it ceases to be fun and is more of a responsibility. This mindset doesn't meet up with most of society and people are programmed to always be moving forward in a relationship, ie with the ultimate goal of finding a partner or marriage. That new woman? She's in the fun zone right now. You wanted something that he just couldn't give you, so I hope you are able to move forward from this and find someone who can give you what you need.

 

[Glara]

It could have been very fun and easy. I live far away. He came in string and wanted more and invited me down and said he wanted more. Then he told me all the serious stuff. Why? Why if he only wanted the fun stuff? It could have been casual, he's the one that made it serious.

 

[sun seeker]

(((Glara))) I'm really sorry. Who can say why? It hurts, I know. Stay in touch okay?

 

[anthony]

People don't need a mental health disorder to manipulate others, though they can certainly use it as their excuse when it is really just who they are.

 

[Sweetpea76]

(((Hugs))) I'm sorry @Glara. Lookin good chick is in for a rude awakening, and it's his loss. Look how patient and loving you are... not many women are like that.