Interview With New Job/ Wife/doctors Etc

[abnvet]

Anyone familiar with Lamesa TX?

In between Lubbock and Midland. Mainly rural.

High school would like to interview me for head principal position this Tuesday. I've been an assistant principal for 3 years in city outside of Denton TX.

I've been trying to think of reasons not to go. Here they are:

1. Wife has cancer and would need oncologist close. There is a hospital there but it's small. Nearest large medical is again Lubbock and Midland. Some 50-60 miles away.

2. I would need doctors for my ptsd. VA and or VetCenter for counseling. Military organization such as VFW would be great too.

3. Wife teaches elementary music and at this time isn't a position available.

4. Rural area. Not even a Starbucks. Lol....I know not that important.

5. Between 5 and 6 hour drive on Tuesday to attend interview at 6:00 pm at night. I can only take Tuesday off. Puts me back home near or after midnight and going to work Wednesday at 6:00 am.

.....am I crazy to go or not to go?

This has been a source of contention between wife and I for over a week...........

Thanks for reading.

 

[Ned]

What, other than promotion and (presumably) more professional freedom, are the reasons to go?

 

[reddevil1111]

I am with Ned on this one. You readily pointed out reasons not to make it work but forgot to list the positives. Sounds like you would love a promotion but this is not the place for it. If you cant work around the remote part don't do it.

 

[abnvet]

Here it is 3 weeks later:

Update-

- did not attend attend interview at Lamesa

-Did attend interview for principal at larger school outside a larger city. (did not get it for lack of experience)

-Tomorrow, have interview for principal at school in larger TX city.

-This Friday and next Friday have interviews for assistant principal at 2 schools.

**So I look good on paper but not in person. For lack of experience, etc. or I may be sabotaging myself before I get to the interviews......feeling of uselessness, etc is what I feel now. Even to the point that I want to cancel tomorrows interview. What The...? This is not me.....what have I become.

 

[Ned]

I've had similar experiences recently, and thought about it. If you're anything like me you look good on paper because, experience/qualification/character-wise, you are good. BUT, the more interviews I've done, the more I realise you have to tick the HR bullshit boxes. And that is something that our particular section of society find hard. Big-upping yourself and spouting management-speak is cringe-making.
I'd keep going for the interviews, crap though it is you're learning, if even in an arbitrary way.
I think you made the right call on Lamesa.
All the best, mate.

P.S. If your experience is parallel to mine, I take it you really want to move from the present job?

 

[Zipperhead]

I think we don't like talking ourselves up for 2 reasons.

First off, actions speak louder. Unfortunately they will never see the ations if you don't get the job.

And Second, in the Army, the guys that talk the talk usually DON'T walk it. This isn't the Army.

 

[Sarg]

Airborne, I ask the same question as Ned, do you really want to take on more responsibility at this point? I made a critical error in my career taking on much more responsibility than I was prepared for. Crashed and burned badly. My career never recovered and I was eventually forced out of my job entirely.

Some times we get caught up in the rat race and force ourselves to do things that hinder rather than help.

My .02

Sarg

 

[Spock]

Airborne,
I agree with Sarg. Saw a guy my last week in the military who told me to take my time. Said he always regretted jumping right back in. All I would add is with a beast like this to deal with I would choose lower stress over more money if you have that option. Hope you find the best of both.

 

[Anglesachse]

.......................in the Army, the guys that talk the talk usually DON'T walk it..............

Spot on Zip cocker