Is a relationship too perfect

[Tezedo]

Have they specifically said or done anything that you think is abusive to you? Like, they don't care if you aren't int...

They’ve also been very sexual when I don’t want to be and they know I don’t want to be, they coerce me or guilt me into by saying stuff like how good it is for them and if I say no they don’t get mad they just make me feel bad later passively, yet maintaining that they aren’t angry in the slightest. Sometimes they either blatantly ignore or just don’t notice when I am clearly not well.

 

[Regij]

That ^^^ is a huge red flag!

 

[Tezedo]

What pops out to me is when you mentioned they don't notice or care that you're not into doing something they like.

As...

Hello :) yes they do know I have PTSD and have worked with people with PTSD in their job before as well. They suffer from anxiety and depression themself

 

[Gunejoh]

Then they're abusive.

 

[Pufipih]

I agree and it is a bad one.

 

[Gunejoh]

They're abusive given post #13

 

[Tezedo]

:( I was a bit afraid of that I really like this person thought I’d found someone

 

[Gunejoh]

Well, you have found someone, but are they good for you is the question? Are you willing to continue putting up with their bad points (which may escalate over time) ?

 

[Pufipih]

You deserve someone that is good to you all of the time, not just some of the time.It gets worse later on.

 

[Tezedo]

Well, you have found someone, but are they good for you is the question? Are you willing to continue putting up with t...

:( that’s true

 

[Tezedo]

You deserve someone that is good to you all of the time, not just some of the time.It gets worse later on.

Just can’t see myself finding someone else who would be as patient with me and my symptoms

 

[Pufipih]

Just can’t see myself finding someone else who would be as patient with me and my symptoms

Later on, if he is like this now. he will be way worse in the way he treats you.I realize this is a hard truth.