Is It Stalking If It Is Just In Their Head?

[Pakadlangitok]

Definitely not stalking. Lots of people hang out in places they feel comfortable and where the staff cre...

No she does not gather info on him. Yes she does know when he works, but she goes when he is not working, too.

Yes she really does like him a lot but she has PSTD too. Do we EVER ask anyone out? I am sure I don't. I am too scared to do that, too!!

 

[EveHarrington]

Oh dear no. She is not studying him. She is taking her schoolwork there. But stays a long time. 4...

Oh sorry, I read too much into "study" lol.

I think what she's doing is harmless. Sounds like she's majorly crushing. As long as things don't get weird, no harm, right?

 

[Pakadlangitok]

Oh sorry, I read too much into "study" lol.

I think what she's doing is harmless. Sounds like s...

I do agree but I also agree that it is too much. When it happens to me, I can tell it starts to form thoughts and I don't like it. I guess if she LIKES it, hey.....but I always find it problematic when I crush on someone after a while.

I guess I hate fantasy. I am pretty hard core reality, hate novels, love non-fiction etc. whereas she does enjoy a good fantasy and loves novels and fiction!

Maybe it is just personality types!

 

[GWhizz]

No she does not gather info on him. Yes she does know when he works, but she goes when he is not w...

Well... Some people I know have asked guys/girls out that way. More so, let's grab a coffee or something with someone they truly hit it off with. Coffee is just coffee to see if you really have any connection. Honestly sometimes we just have to take a risk if you really like someone, not that that's very easy at all when you have PTSD.

 

[Pakadlangitok]

OMG. I would die if any of my crushes found out. I would be mortified. When I have a crush I immediately am so ashamed I cannot even get my mind around it. All I can think is how embarrassed they would be.

My last crush, I got so confused! I had to stop going to the place where they were just to stop it. It made me sad. They had done nothing wring and me either.

But my shame was reaching those levels, like you know? Like you start to look in the mirror and if you could you wipe out the fact that ever even lived on the face of the earth? Am I the only one that feels that way???

 

[EveHarrington]

I do agree but I also agree that it is too much. When it happens to me, I can tell it starts to fo...

I'm much the same------not one for fantasy or daydreaming. I much rather "do" than dream about doing.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

I would call it obsessing. Possibly at an unhealthy level. But not stalking. I mean if the guy said "leave me alone" and she didnt then thats stalking. All she is doing is being a regular (my therapist says there are regulars at every place) and day dreaming really.

 

[GWhizz]

OMG. I would die if any of my crushes found out. I would be mortified. When I have a crush I immed...

Just inferring about how some real relationships start to make the point that she's not doing anything wrong just yet. I myself would not ask a guy out. But that's just me. Never meant to make you feel like you're alone in how you feel. But just being open-minded about the individual differences in approaches to relationships is important I think. We're all different. And as I said, of course trauma changes everything up.