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[Ladyhope Somerset]

I think one of the valuable things about this site is that we are able to vent, express our fears, concerns, confusion etc and just as importantly to me is that we know very little about each other because I don't think I would have the courage to open up in this way to people I know. I've only be around here for a few months but it's helping me understand and building my confidence as a carer, so I'll be sticking around.

 

[anthony]

I think you wrote quite well actually. Sometimes I just want to kick the shit out of people, and have absolutely wanted to kill them in the past... but didn't, though talking about it, venting about it, just screaming at something... usually got all the crap out of me. It wasn't even usually them, more like you said Alan... just all the shit piling up and boom! Explosion 101.

Something I learnt along the way, is that I had to stop kidding myself and ignoring all the small shit that frustrated me, dealt with it instead, so it doesn't all pile up quite so fast these days and over-whelm me to that point of wanting to kill someone.

 

[Nicolette]

You know, I get the military attitude of being tough, macho whatever you want to call it and dealing with it by stuffing it "down in your boots" as Nate wrote. :rolleyes:

From my point of view; if you told us what 'small shit was pissing you off' instead of shoving it in your boots it would be a better place for all..... we might not like what we hear but at least we know what the issue is and can do what we can not to inflate the situation if possible. I'm then guessing it would result in the possibility of diminishing the explosion status occurring on some occasions???

(Note: I speak generally as in Carers and Sufferer based on my point of view - not specifically Anthony and myself).

 

[Nate1]

Nicolette,
You make a very good point of telling our cares about the 'small shit that pisses us off' but most of the time it is hard to get it out. I speak for myself when I say this, when you have small shit that is pissing you off on a missions you have to put it down in your boots because it doesn't matter. If you do bring it up you are told get bent and nothing is done about it so you are better to keep your mouth shut. I have a hard time to let things out because I have trained myself to push it down and deal with it by myself.

Nate

 

[Jimmy1]

Yeah Nate, I agree 100%. That is all part of the military conditioning, programming, brain washing. Call it what you want, but in the end its the small shit that sometimes saved lives. Think about your automatic response to a rifle shot. You don't stand around looking where it came from, you go for cover and look for sight picture. I still get up in the morning at daybreak and its been nearly three years since I have been out. I also still wake at the slightest noise near me, unless I am under the influence of those lovely prescription meds.
What I am trying to say is some things will never change. And Nicolette, we try to say the small things sometimes, but it feels like whining and being bitchy to us, and just does not feel right. And you might open a can of worms. lmao.
We might complain about all the small things.

Jimmy

 

[Nicolette]

Guess we're just damned either way then Jimmy ;)

 

[Jimmy1]

Yep, but you love us, so that is all that matters in the end.

 

[paulwoodr]

I go through the same shit all the time. I just don't have feelings about anything. Most the time I just don't say anything but when I do I usually blow up.