Is there a word for this?

[CatInTree]

While and after I got traumatized I got hostile reactions from my environment and former support network which made it worse. Is there a word for this? I can't figure out what to type in the searcher.

 

[Friday]

Do you mean your friends / family / etc. were mad at you during your trauma & afterwards? Or your employer was upset with you? Sorry, I'm not quite understanding.

 

[CatInTree]

Do you mean your friends / family / etc. were mad at you during your trauma & afterwards?

Yes. I got blamed for what was going on.

 

[Friday]

In a "Stop doing this, you're hurting yourself!" kind of way, or in a victim blaming kind of way, or in a "you signed up for this" kind of way? Or differently?

 

[CatInTree]

In a "Stop doing this, you're hurting yourself!" kind of way, or in a victim blaming kind of way, or in a "you signed up for this" kind of way? Or differently?

In the "it's your fault when someone dies by suicide" kind of way.

 

[Neverthesame]

I believe that's called Cranial Rectal Inversion Syndrome. In layman's terms, it's when people get their heads stuck up their own asses because they can't cope in a healthy way with something that upsets them.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Neverthesame LOVED that... Yes it’s called blaming the victim, because they can’t cope with anything that isn’t within their realm....

 

[Deleted member 37085]

@Neverthesame...Thank you...and truly a well-flourishing state of mind, etc.

 

[Freida]

@Neverthesame I was just going to call them a bunch of raving beatoches but I like yours way better!

@CatInTree when people don't have control of their situation they will lash out at the person who reminds them of how bad things can really go. As in:

Oh wow.people actually will kill themselves here.
Wait, that makes me feel bad.
So I'm going to deflect my feelings and blame someone else.
Oh gee, now I feel better

There really is no search term for it. It's just people being....well...people.

 

[bento]

I think people cast blame as a way to feel more in control. It's easier than living
with the reality that people make the tragic choice to end their lives without
giving others a chance to intervene.

I'm sorry that you had to experience that. It must be very isolating. Hang in there.

 

[CatInTree]

when people don't have control of their situation they will lash out at the person who reminds them of how bad things can really go.

I read something similar a long time ago. Just never thought it would apply to any situation I found myself in.

 

[Freida]

Yep --- it's sad. Luckily you found this group to balance them out!