Is There Just Always A Snake In The Grass??

[iwannadeletethis]

I think I do this as well. It makes others uncomfortable, especially if your standards are higher than t...

That whole niceness thing.. Lol. Tons of people don't want to be my friend because I'm so nice and that blows my mind.

 

[Anarchy]

Hi Skitzi,
Sorry if I gave wrong impression.
I'm not reading to be a voyeur, just a sympathetic individual who has run foul of too many narcs and has no answers, only sympathy to offer.:hug:

And yes, in many ways I was an obnoxious teenage :poop:. Monty Python or Fawlty Towers are both very likely sources.

 

[Gadgie]

I suppose I'm lucky in a way, as my "snake in the grass" my late wife's family, haven't bothered me ever since they convinced their late mother to hand over all "our life savings'" plus all her jewellery, in fact everything of value, to them, just before she passed nine months ago?

Then, to top it off, reported me to the police and social services, for so called abusing my wife? All this after I had been caring for her over her last seven years, while she was bed bound, with not much help from them?
Which was hard for me to do, as I'm not very mobile myself, after a work related back injury fifteen years ago. (Plus the problems that I have with PTSD)

I do however miss the G/Kids, but I suppose they have been told them a bunch of lies as well, so not much chance of ever seeing them again?

 

[iwannadeletethis]

Hi Skitzi,
Sorry if I gave wrong impression.
I'm not reading to be a voyeur, just a sympathetic individu...

@Anarchy :roflmao: no worries!! You crack me up either way!!

I was a fan of Monty Python too. Lol

 

[iwannadeletethis]

I suppose I'm lucky in a way, as my "snake in the grass" my late wife's family, haven't bothered me ever...

That's awful @Gadgie !! My family did stuff like that with our more elderly members too. And when I left, my family manipulated my special needs cousins in all kinds of hateful ways about my leaving. When the rejection was mutual. Made me sick. I haven't seen them in 10 years.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

And I was right!! He is a totally snake in the grass. Lol

 

[Anarchy]

And I was right!! He is a totally snake in the grass. Lol

Oh shit
Knowing that the wondering and doubts and questions about whether you were being too judgemental are over is a small consolation.
Have you an escape route?:hug:

 

[iwannadeletethis]

Oh shit
Knowing that the wondering and doubts and questions about whether you were being too judgemental...

I actually had no worries or doubts.. It's an actual skill. I'm a retired little street rat. I was just putting that up for the people who doubted me. Lol

No escape route.. I think I'm gonna get in touch with a recruiter for the peace corp as my place holder just in case. Some of the things my man says while we fight, make me feel like he wants to get rid of me. It confuses the hell out of me because I say what I mean. But then, last night, he made me promise to commit to him and a healthy relationship since we're moving into a condo he's buying. He doesn't want bad memories there since it's the home he's investing in for the rest of his life. Any advice or words? You seem to keep a level head.

 

[Chava]

Hi Skitzii...I'm jumping in late so am sure haven't been able to read everything. But this relationship concerns me a little. No judging because I've been in this place too...

he made me promise to commit to him and a healthy relationship since we're moving into a condo he's buying. He doesn't want bad memories there since it's the home he's investing in for the rest of his life.

First, nobody can make you promise. Did you promise? It sounds like you are looking for a "back-up" plan to this relationship. Even if this guy is an asshole, to be looking for a way out and yet making promises to him so you can keep this option in case a back up doesn't work, is not very fair to the guy. What do you want? Be honest with him if you can. I know you have said you are honest, but this sounds like quite a commitment (the house thing) and I wonder if your guy really knows that you are looking for a way out. ???

 

[iwannadeletethis]

Hi Skitzii...I'm jumping in late so am sure haven't been able to read everything. But this relationship co...

@Chava I have to have a backup because he's threatened to kick me out. If I don't have a backup, I'm on the streets. You're hearts in the right place, but you misunderstood love. He knows I have a backup. If I don't, that puts extra pressure on him. I'm just now employed again.

 

[iwannadeletethis]

@Chava *but I still don't make much

 

[Dana1010]

The first thing you need to do is get out of food service, though I know it might be difficult without a degree. In the restaurants I worked in, there was never a boss who didn't try to get in your pants. First you think it's all a joke, and you laugh. Big mistake. Laughter to them is encouragement; they think they're getting somewhere. Then it escalates. Sexual harassment is treated like a joke in that industry. I've heard of restaurants where it's pretty much known to all that the waitresses have to sleep with the owner for shifts at the bar. No one even thinks of filing charges. It's a very sad situation. The truth is that when an old man sees an inroad to getting with a young woman, he's typically going to take it, and the unequal relationship between boss and employee is just aching to be mined for goodies.