It Happened. Now What?

[digger]

Sorry, didn't mean what you would tell the hospital, meant your parents.

 

[mytai]

@digger1 Don't plan on telling them anything or showing them. They chose a long time ago not to support me or back me up when I told them, so now I don't turn to them anymore. It hurts to be rejected by your own parents when they should support you, I know a lot of people here can relate to that for different reasons. My great-uncle rarely injures me that is a common, everyday area that is exposed. Since I won't be wearing a bathing suit or going shirtless around my family they won't know.

 

[digger]

No I wasn't expecting you to tell them. I understand that and wasn't suggesting you should unless that was something you wanted to. I just find it is helpful sometimes to think ahead of time how I might deal with different outcomes of difficult situations and with different people. It might not be something you do. I was thinking more if you needed urgent medical care as you did yesterday, do you have a plan of what you will say to your parents about needing to go to the hospital.....I find it easier to think ahead while I'm relatively calm than have to make spur of the moment decisions in difficult situations. Unavoidable at times I know, but might be worth thinking about.

 

[Echo]

@mytai, I know also what it is like to have no support and concern from my parents when faced with these things. I also know though how much energy it has cost me to hide how I've really felt from them. I really hope things go well for you and you get through it feeling ok. I was wondering if you have a safe and trusted family member or friend local to your parents in case you feel bad or just need some time out. You are under such pressure already. I expect you've already thought this all through, but like everyone else here, I am so concerned that you keep safe and well-looked after. Please don't feel compelled to answer if you'd rather not. Wishing you every good thing, Echo xx

 

[mytai]

@digger1 I would just tell them in going out for a while.

@Echo I have a friend I could spend time with. But tomorrow night I'm going to a party with my parents and friend and I plan on drinking a lot. Not the best way to deal with problems but I don't do it normally. I just need a break and to relax.

 

[mytai]

Met the social worker. She has the same first name as my T. She was nice, use today as a get to know me type thing. So it was only 30 minutes.

Before we book another appointment she wants me to ask my T if she minds if I see them both. The social worker said she doesn't want to step on any toes or interfere with what my T is trying to do. She said if my T doesn't mind then to book another appointment if I want to when I come in on Friday for the follow up.

I think I will use this service and see the social worker. I think I need the extra support on top of my T right now. Plus it is free.

 

[Echo]

@mytai, I'm so glad you've got that extra support. Let's hope that it is all about positive change for you in the New Year with the help of these people and with your strength. I wish you a very good New Year.

 

[mytai]

Woke up this morning to the burns weeping. Not a good sign based on the colour that is weeping out. Trying to keep it clean until I go in on Friday again.

 

[digger]

:-/ What are you using to clean it with?

 

[Echo]

Hi mytai, did the nurses tell you what to do if this happened? You must be getting tired of going into hospital, but do you need medical assistance? It must hurt so much.

 

[Alic3]

It happened again after the first time from when you posted this thread? :( How did he find you?

 

[mytai]

@digger1 I'm using a mild soap with water, and then polysporin.

@Echo the nurse didn't tell me what to do if it got infected. I am tired of going to the hospital, so I'm just going to wait until I'm scheduled to go in on Friday.

@Alic3 Yes it happened again since I first posted this thread. I don't know how he found me because I don't remember much about the second time other than bits and pieces.