ladee
MyPTSD Pro
I have a huge aversion to asking for help. About anything. I have a friend that offered, 'call me if you need anything' this past year. I never called her, tho it was almost impossible to get dressed and leave the house because I had listened to her for years bitch about when someone calls and it's inconvenient for her. So, no, I didn't call her.
I don't trust people easily. Do I expect people to be consistent with thier concerns, yes. What do they say to me when it's apparent I'm upset. If it comes off rehearsed or insincere, no, I will not share.
I can walk away from people too easily. I do have hard boundaries about most things, so have weeded out those that couldn't meet the task. But I also realized, from past experiences of not trusting my gut, that the worst that would happen is that I would get hurt. But it was those situations that honed my 'radar'.
I could care less anymore if people perceive my needing help as a weakness. I know better and know how hard it is to ask. I pay attention to those around me and how they handle their own life. I pay attention when they are speaking of others. Are things said with compassion or caring? Or is it gossip and judgment?
To blindly trust. Not gonna happen. But sometimes we do need others. And I hope the people offering their support are there when you need them, in a way that is helping and nonjudgemental.
People show us who they are. We just have to pay attention and trust ourselves first.
I don't trust people easily. Do I expect people to be consistent with thier concerns, yes. What do they say to me when it's apparent I'm upset. If it comes off rehearsed or insincere, no, I will not share.
I can walk away from people too easily. I do have hard boundaries about most things, so have weeded out those that couldn't meet the task. But I also realized, from past experiences of not trusting my gut, that the worst that would happen is that I would get hurt. But it was those situations that honed my 'radar'.
I could care less anymore if people perceive my needing help as a weakness. I know better and know how hard it is to ask. I pay attention to those around me and how they handle their own life. I pay attention when they are speaking of others. Are things said with compassion or caring? Or is it gossip and judgment?
To blindly trust. Not gonna happen. But sometimes we do need others. And I hope the people offering their support are there when you need them, in a way that is helping and nonjudgemental.
People show us who they are. We just have to pay attention and trust ourselves first.