It Is Just Me?

[Whyteferret]

It's a club we belong to , that no one wants to join.Many people couldn't handle it. Some would surprise...

@ladee
People can empathize though. You don't need to walk over broken glass to know it hurts.
Maybe it's not understanding I want them to have, but more compassion or empathy.

 

[ladee]

I just know that I have conditioned myself to not take it personal when no one understands or wants to understand. If I do receive compassion or empathy, I am very grateful. And I have. Rarely, but I have. It simply me not letting myself have expectations in that area...
But are these same people being compassionate and empathetic in the world around them normally? They are not going to jump the shark to get informed about something they are not interested in....

 

[GrayOwl]

Good friends are hard to find. For those of you here, my heartfelt gratitude.
If I didn't have bad days, I wouldn't appreciate fully the good ones.
If there weren't "judgmental ignorant" people out there, I might not appreciate the good ones.
I'm grateful today:
That I'm not like them.
That I can improve my life.
That I can have compassion.
That I can read.
That I can come here and see caring.

I'm having a rough day. And a bad moment. I have to go to work, and that's a bad situation right now.
Honestly, I don't wish judgmental ignorant people would have to suffer like me, I wish lightning would strike them.
That being said I can laugh a little and maybe move on. Yes, I do harbor angry thoughts.... but it's a waste of time.
I need to improve me, not destroy them.
Just seems like there aren't many of us on the life raft.
To all here I wish a G'day, Whyteferret I hope you find some comfort, at least you have your critter friends. I hope they are well.

 

[Tinyflame]

I don't really care they are judgemental or ignorant, as much as wish they would leave me alone. I think only one day would make sense if they didn't know that it would end in one day. Could you even fit all the scenarios in one day, I don't think so. Plus the worst is it's day after day after day after day. Even then, my own experience has changed the longer it's present. FWIW, I don't know their strugles, but when I'm judgemental myself it's an awful way to live & not happy for me. For me, I find the judgment is hurtful & exasperating though. I suppose it makes me wish I could disappear or flee.

I think whatever you feel @Whyteferret is ok.

I like what @Cashew said, I have limited head-space & life-span to add them to it if I can help it.

Best wishes @Whyteferret , & @GrayOwl with work tonight. :hug:

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I have a quote from Gavin de Becker. Judgement blocks perception. It is true for me as well.

 

[Ronin]

I believe in karma.

Philosophical-linguistic: Karma is only speaking of actions and consequences.
Each action indeed has consequence of some form.
All of that 'good' and 'bad' and 'bad seeds worse' is just dualistic, Christian-based (nothing against; former Christian here) nonsensical take on the concept & the word.

It shouldn't be applied to trauma, at all.
First as it wasn't intended that way.
Secondly because it's spreading a misconception about the concept of 'karma'.
Thirdly because it's harmful to actual, feeling, people.

TLDR Don't guilt trip people is a good advice to go by.

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes, not sure if this is the same @Cashew but aka "bad things happen to good people (they happen to all people), & vice versa"?

 

[Ronin]

Yep, and there's that.

Shit simply happens.
Some people are shit to other people.
Looking for 'karma' being the bitch isn't productive for dealing with two simpler realities.

 

[Whyteferret]

@Cashew
@Junebug
Three fold Law is not literal. It just means your actions have some sort of outcome. If you send out negativity or harm someone deliberately, there are some sort of consequences attached.

Do I think my PTSD and brain injury are consequences for something I did? No. It doesn't work that way. It's hard for me to explain. Some things happen because someone chooses to harm someone else. Karma/ consequences are hard to explain aren't they?

I take the long view. I believe in reincarnation. We come here for soul growth. This doesn't mean we choose trauma. Free will also comes into it. But, there are some soul lessons in almost everything. It's complicated to explain.

Yes, there is accountability for actions. I think it's taken care of between incarnations. We don't carry the guilt and imbalance into this life.

 

[Gadgie]

Aye! and some people get more sh!t in their lives than others! Some folk go through life and never have bad "sh!t" things happening to them, while others get a lot more than they can handle, or deserve?

I'm just tired really, ......it's been a long day for me, despite sleeping through half of it, it's been an emotional day as well, as I've been having daytime nightmares in the form of flash backs, this has never happened to me before, and it's freaking me out?

 

[Ronin]

Three fold Law is not literal. It just means your actions have some sort of outcome. If you send out negativity or harm someone deliberately, there are some sort of consequences attached.

Yep, we're on the same page about that, homie. :tup:

 

[Tinyflame]

I don't know much about such things @Whyteferret , I confess. (I'm pretty simple-thinking.)

:hug: 's though.