It Was My Fault

[YoungAndScared]

You have to think to yourself what has happened. Is he worth this? you sacrificed your child for him. To make him happy. What if something else happens? like illness, would he stand by you?

I can understand that, but having gone through it less than 6 months ago I think its harsh to be asking that of someone.

 

[a3a2]

I think, in many cases, the young man has regrets as well. There really is not enough information given. Hugs to you, YoungandScared, and to you TanTan, and all of you who have suffered through this. I remember well, the fear that comes with finding out you are pregnant when you are not ready for a child.

My husband, a pastor, conducts occasional memorial services for aborted babies to help the parents heal. It may be something you want to consider. Again, I suggest you go through a crisis pregnancy center, as they have a lot of very healing post-abortion services both for men and women.

 

[KP the nut]

My husband, a pastor, conducts occasional memorial services for aborted babies to help the parents heal. It may be something you want to consider. .

This sounds a wonderful thing. I am fortunate I never had that decision to make. This at least sounds as if it would bring some closure by acknowledging that for however short a life it is a loss.

a3a2, your husband sound a remarkable man.

 

[Anna]

Yes, in general there needs to be more support for people after this has happened. In my case I was pressured by my mother as well to end the pregnancy. I really wanted the child, my ex did not. It is truly terrible situation to be in.

Where I lived at the time there was no real support groups afterwards. It is very important to get the support you need in such a hard time.

Going back to the thread, Tan Tan, it was not your fault. Never blame yourself. I did this for years as well. Sometimes life can be very hard, we make the most of what we have. Look to those you love for support.

There are also many support groups out there nowadays as well as was said in the posts above :)

 

[YoungAndScared]

Thank you, a3a2. I think my partner and I will have to look for something like this in our area.

*hugs to everyone!*

 

[SadDreamer]

People suffering from PTSD after abortion, don't seem to get any support. At least, I haven't. It's destroying my life. But I can't talk about it... to anyone. I don't know if how I am feeling is normal, or if I am just crazy.

 

[KP the nut]

But I can't talk about it... to anyone. I don't know if how I am feeling is normal, or if I am just crazy.

(((SadDreamer))) I don't think you are crazy. I can't relate to your trauma but it has been said here many times it is not how we came to have PTSD which connect us but the symptoms.

You can talk here if you want, maybe start a diary. If it would help feel free to PM me, I don't have the answers but I can listen.

Linking arms
KP

 

[SadDreamer]

Thanks

If it would help feel free to PM me, I don't have the answers but I can listen.

Thank you. I'm not sure what I should do anymore. Nothing seems to work, my life seems to just be getting shittier. And it's probably all in my head so that means I am making my life shittier. So, that makes me even more pathetic than I already am. Ugh. I came here because I am trying to seek help for myself. Therapy hasn't helped me, i have no support from my family, and my friends just kind of pretend there is nothing wrong with me.. they don't understand. I have no support group. I hate this condition. I f*cking hate it. I wish it would just go away. I've never been a depressed person or a sad person. This just sucks.... and its all in my head. Why does this happen to some people, but not to others? I don't understand it. I don't know what to do to pull myself out of this altered perspective on life.

 

[SadDreamer]

Sorry for that rant. :/ I appreciate your kind words. I am just sad, I'll get through it.

 

[jo may]

Hi Tan Tan

That is truly hreatbreaking to read, the least they could have done was offer you a D/C I mean it's not nice but at least your asleep and not in pain.

I had a D/C after my miscarrage and I am still very angry at the Dortor at the hospital and the Nurse in A and E.
I was told I was 3 months turns out I quite a bit more than that. They admitted me to make sure i was clean but I wasn't and in lots of pain. So they gave me a D/C and when I came round I cried for hours.

I really hope this forum offers you the support you need (((hugs)))