Relationship It's Over, I'm Done

[lovemyvet]

So I haven't heard from my vet in a month. He's alive and well it seems, just no contact with me at all. Not even an "I'm OK" text. NOTHING. I'm done checking my phone 1000 times a day. I need to move on with my life for me and my kids.

I think this is his way of protecting me against himself. He's told me hundreds of times that he would rather see me temporarily hurt for a while by having him disappear than having him hurt me for the rest of my life. The sad thing is that I would have never felt that way. I love him. Always will.

 

[Pakadlangitok]

So I haven't heard from my vet in a month. He's alive and well it seems, just no contact with me at...

I know you love him but you have to do what you have to for you and your kids. I have PTSD, not a care-er but it makes me cringe (more than cringe, it makes me hate myself) when I think what I do to the people who love me. He must know that he is doing it, too, and I feel compassion for you both.
I hope things work out. You are in a tight place

 

[Silver.]

In my opinion, PTSD is not an excuse to go away for a month with no communication at all, not even a check in. I would seriously think about this being out of the spectrum of PTSD, you cannot live your life on hold. (just my two cents).

 

[Virtues]

I'm sorry that this has happened to you. I can't imagine what you are going through right now. I'm glad you are still here seeking support as I'm sure these are some trying times. So often I see people post in the initial few days of an isolation phase and then I never hear from them again. Please keep posting and reach out for the support you need. I know you are still in the midst of turmoil, but hopefully in time no matter what happens things will start to get better for you.

 

[lovemyvet]

I know you love him but you have to do what you have to for you and your kids. I have PTSD, not a...

I know him well enough to know that he thinks he's doing what's best for me. I know he must feel like crap doing it...probably the exact same way you feel. By the way, I should have stated that my kids are from my previous marriage and not by him, but they are affected by his absence too.

Thank you for your kind words :)

 

[lovemyvet]

In my opinion, PTSD is not an excuse to go away for a month with no communication at all, not even a...

I agree that I can't live my life on hold anymore. I'm considering this romantic relationship over, but I will be there for him anytime, always, as I really think he's doing what he thinks is best for me, which is for me to not have him in my life. Ugh....it's so sad to have no closure!

 

[lovemyvet]

I'm sorry that this has happened to you. I can't imagine what you are going through right now. I'...

Thank you so much @Florian7051!! I'm definitely needed the support. :)

 

[Silver.]

.it's so sad to have no closure!

you are so right! It hurts not to get closure, it is something we expect if a relationship doesn't work out. I am sorry that you are going through this, I know it can't be easy. Sending you positive thoughts x