Relationship It's Over

[Miss Bess]

I tried so hard to keep it together, but he wants to separate. He refuses to try talk therapy. He's angry that I don't understand him, but he won't tell me anything. He refuses counseling. He says hurtful things to me. He's right. It is over. He's not the man I married. Why am I hurting so badly right now?:cry:

 

[kclarkesocal]

I'm so sorry for you. I feel like I'm in the same boat. And it sucks. But I really believe that time will help heal some of our wounds.

 

[intothelight]

Why am I hurting so badly right now?:cry:

Because you love him. It is normal to hurt, but it takes two to keep a relationship working. You did your part, but he didn't do his.

I am sorry you are hurting.

Deb

 

[Gamereign555]

I am trying myself to hold onto a 5 year relationship. I haven't had a job in over a year. It takes a lot of work to not just lay around and drink. Still I feel like I am scrambling to keep things working for us. I can only hope she is sometimes happy with me. I can't give up but I do feel that if things end up over between us that it would be her ultimate call but it would be mutual. As much as I need her and try, her needs have to be met as well. She has recently told me that wants therapy, but it could go either way for us, therapy doesn't mean everything will be better.

We rely somewhat on her parents and they tend to bug her to the point of crying. Whenever this happens I get that pit feeling in my stomach that they have finally come between us and it's going to be over.

 

[Miss Bess]

Bless you, gamereign. I pray things get better for you.

 

[Sabre]

Miss Bess

I am only new but maybe a little time apart might assist him.

My wife and I took some time apart but it was enough for me to see that I needed her more. More than I could say as my emotion chip had been set to dumb male mode, stubborn and mean. I would not talk to my wife and get angry all the time, but when I came home to here her say she was going and taking the kids it made me change my mind.

I will pray all works out for you and your partner.

Take care sabre

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[AngelaMarie]

I truly wish you healing. Even though it doesn't feel like it things will eventually get better.

 

[Sunshine71]

Sending you love Miss Bess xxxxxxxxx

 

[Gamereign555]

We are doing better after the joint therapy session, it was a much needed thing for us.

 

[ISupportHer]

I am so very sorry to hear your pain. It IS very hard. I know I have heard stories here that have gone each way. Even though he will not seek help, I hope that you are.

ISH

 

[ProudWife99]

We here this often in life and we can rarely believe it, but I know how you're feeling. Whichever way it goes, know that there is healing. There is hope.

 

[JohnJohn]

Miss Bess,

My wife is reluctant to get help too and sometimes I think she spends more effort running away from everything. I can not speak on what is best for you, but we have a child caught right in the middle of our emotional hurricane. I try and think of her and what she would want us to do to keep my efforts up.

I don't believe any of this is easy and it is different for everyone, but I will not let me or my family continue to be victimized by some past evil. If that means I press on and support her until she decides she does not want to try and fight it any longer, so be it. I can be proud I gave it my best and tell my daughter that much. We all have different limits and needs. Find out what is best for you, give it some thought, talk and share your dilemma with loved ones then choose the path that you must.

Good luck and hang in there. My thoughts are with you and the countless others that suffer in the effort to help others live and become whole again.