Job Nightmare

[Powder]

My spouse has another disorder for which he takes meds, which are expensive. He has no med coverage, no job, finished college a year ago. He cannot find a job.

He applied, interviewed, and it looked like was first pick for a great career opportunity job with my employer. They strung him along for months only to drop the whole position.

My stomach fell through the floor. I am in shock. I am crying and feel physically sick.

I don't know, because I'm not objective, what is the issue. I don't know how to help him and I can't.

Meantime, my rest is half my monthly pay. I have no financial assistance other than reduced lunch for my kids.

I wonder if he should try to apply to be on disability? But he hasn't work in years. Has been a student. We got him student loans.

 

[Justmehere]

Disability might be a good option if his doctor and other providers agree he is unable to work. In the short term, needymeds.org might be another resource until things work out one way or another. :hug:

 

[Powder]

Thanks, Justmehere!

That site linked me to CaringVoice.org, which supports Narcolepsy.

Does anyone have any advice. I'm scared to put my info into anything.

 

[Justmehere]

Oops! I typed the address wrong - edited it to fix it in the post above. It should be a link to Needy Meds, a website with info about drug company sponsored patient assistance programs that help low income folks to be able to get the drug directly from the drug company for free or significantly reduced rates. His meds may or may not be included, or he might have to switch from generic to brand name, but thought I would pass along just in case. Shouldn't have to enter your info online to be able to get info about possible options.

 

[Powder]

Thank you, there is a card that you can print Link Removed

I have to go back up to Needy Meds site to see what was there, too.

 

[Powder]

The last three jobs he's applied to never happened. By that I mean, the first they just never hired, the second, they kept an old friend and never hired, and then this one, they just gave up on the whole position because it was all or nothing, 4 people or none.

I don't know what the deal is.

How common is this?

Maybe it's karma? LOL

I don't know. He's worked daily until the recession, went back to college, was successful there, and now, nothing works for him. I have seen how hard he's worked to get a job.

I think "knowing" that he has Narcolepsy has taken something from him that he hasn't found out how to get back.

From my experience with PTSD and life in general, feeling confident and happy is based on featherweight dreams and certain hard, cold facts can sink you for no logical reason. It's a head game.

 

[Powder]

My research has led me to see that it takes college grads with a disability 60% longer to find a full time job.
He is also first gen, meaning parents didn't even have a high school diploma.

He is very smart and capable, but gets tired often from his sleep disorder. Meds helps, but like PTSD, not a cure by a long shot.

I feel like parts of me are shutting down. I feel less alive. Just trying to survive. Even more so because I'm afraid of what is going to happen to us financially and relationship wise. Change is a constant, but PTSD doesn't allow a warm fuzzy feeling with uncertainty. No sir.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I think if he goes to his doctors and tells them how hard he is struggling and have conversations with them to find if that they think he qualifies for disability because they will be the ones to sign the letters recommending him for that. Document everything and if this is feasible maybe even going to legal aid for representation. I do not know this is all that comes to mind right now. I sure hope it helps.:hug: