Childhood Just Thought I'd Share This...

[GWhizz]

For those of you who've had to cut ties with your mum or even more... It's been hard but everyday I realise it's the healthier decision.

http://jezebel.com/a-toast-to-all-t...source=jezebel_facebook&utm_medium=socialflow

 

[Sammyiam]

Well my mums gone for good now, and even after here death she left a whole lot of hell to deal with, which she knew would be nasty and cause pain, which has broken up the entire family never to be the same again. She has had the last and lasting say. I feel so broken that she did this to us. On her death bed she was still mean to me and her parting words to me were.
Are you still here GO HOME.

I suppose I shouldn't have expected any different :(

I hope you have more luck than I did. You need to take care of yourself. @GWizz, I hope you are ok.

Sammy

 

[Tinyflame]

Dear @Sammyiam , that's devastating. :( :cry: Just to say, I think that could have been projection of thoughts of her own self, why was she still here? Most people too try to get people to leave or will 'wait' until they do before they die. I hope she will get peace, but I wish you even more peace. You remarkably forgave much to be there, & you can know that, & which breaks the cycle. Far be it from an ending I hope this will be a start for a new, profoundly happier life for you, free of others' negativity & (undeserved) blame. Take care of yourself. :hug:

 

[Sammyiam]

Thanks @Junebug
No she knew what she was saying and she was just wanting to be mean one last time, as she was her whole life.

@GWhizz it is so hard to cut ties, I knew in my heart I should be cutting ties, but I was always overcome with the guilt of being a loyal daughter and doing the right thing ( well what I felt as the right thing) was to so respect to my mum. And one thing I can say is I never ever told her what I thought I was always the loyal daughter and just said sorry every time she hurt me.
Now if I had known what I know now I would have done or tried to keep my distance a lot more and try to keep myself safe rather than just letting her get away with it because I was to soft and a whimp. I should have done what you are doing @GWhizz .
I wish all of you with Mums out there all the best and hope you can get something out of the relationship for you and help you heal all the hurt as once they are gone that's it. There is nothing but memorys in your mind good or bad

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Nice article. Half the time I read the comments for a good laugh. This time i just wanted to punch everyone who replied saying "I had a great mom!!!!" Yeah, thanks for that. Really, are you trying to help? Cuz honestly, you're not. This is the wound that never full heals. Well, if it does, there is always a nasty scar left behind. Your stupid internet hugs aren't going to help me heal from not EVER receiving motherly love. (Clarification, I'm responding to the article, nothing said here, so please don't anyone take offense, as in, I'm responding to the sad, sad attempts at an outsider who knows nothing of even slight family dysfunction who tries to make others feel better with a few huggy-huggys) Yes, I'm in the sad phase that occasionally swings to pure bitterness, like now.

 

[jaccat]

Thanks for this. It's the unforgivable thing that you can never talk about to 'normal' people- You did what? You must be horrible! Not so. I did what I needed to survive. It's nice to see some recognition.

 

[GWhizz]

Yes @jaccat I've been told 'you only ever get one mother - you can't turn your back on her', I just replied with - 'you have no idea what you're talking about'. It's hard enough to do, and to avoid her attempts to lure me back into an unhealthy relationship, without ppl guiltily me over it.

 

[Sammyiam]

Yep,
You don't need others laying guilt on you. We have more than enough of our own to try and handle. That's what stopped me from no contact, I just couldn't get past the guilt I felt.