List of Traumas for Therapist

[Tinyflame]

Well I'm kind of 'spongy', when it comes to feelings, big time @piratelady , I am sensitive and can't shake negative things off easily. Or I take them to heart. I mean, I try not to.

I guess by 'feelings' I mean my own internal climate, and by 'my thoughts' I mean attempts to make sense of things, understand things, solve problems, cope with things, bear with things, understand context and perspective, manage my feelings, attain strength, trust, have hope, be fair (to all). I suppose process trauma, too.

:hug:

 

[shimmerz]

but now I’m feeling better again so the sense of urgency has passed.

I used to do this too but realized that the only time I moved on something (this is me, not you) was when something felt awful, horrible, terrible. Which was reactive.

I now picture a line (continuum) and I don't send off anything to anyone unless I am mid line. Whatever that takes.

I say, there is no better reason to send it off to your T because you are not feeling the urgency of it. That is actually a really good feeling and what we are all aiming for in healing.

Send it because T wants to help you not because you are freaked out.

lol. That isn't an order. Just a thought. :-)

 

[piratelady]

I say, there is no better reason to send it off to your T because you are not feeling the urgency of it. That is actually a really good feeling and what we are all aiming for in healing.

I did wind up sending it to him. After I sent it, I felt like this weight had been lifted. It was great! Until this morning when my therapist replied that he received my email. His reply was very encouraging, but it just made it all very real. Now I'm incredibly anxious for my appointment on Wednesday. The good thing was in last week's appointment I told therapist that in the past when I had emailed stuff to him, it made me incredibly anxious before the appointment. So I imagine he'll adjust accordingly. He did reply that he has a lot to say when we meet... :eek:

I've been trying to figure out why I'm so nervous. I know my therapist will treat me really well, he's given me no reason to doubt him. What I've decided or determined is that I'm just incredibly embarrassed. Talking about anything sexual, not even considering sexual abuse just really bothers me. I think there is no real solution for that though, just have to push forward.

lol. That isn't an order. Just a thought.

LOL this made me laugh.

 

[shimmerz]

I've been trying to figure out why I'm so nervous.

Because it had to be a secret all of these years in order to keep you safe. Now things are different. Your T is going to teach you that it is safe-r to discuss than it is to have it locked in your system.

I did wind up sending it to him.

OMG! What a huge step forward! Well done! I hope within all the conflicting thoughts you are giving thought to a sense of pride because that was incredibly brave.

 

[piratelady]

I hope within all the conflicting thoughts you are giving thought to a sense of pride because that was incredibly brave.

I didn't really until he replied he told me he was very proud of me and I was courageous. It definitely gave me a different perspective on it. I just need to get through Wednesday. I am very thankful for all the support I've received here. I wouldn't have been able to send the email without it.

 

[Kopykat]

I’ve emailed my therapist before sessions about things I’m thinking about and she will sometimes bring them up as an option to talk about at the beginning of our session. She doesn’t push the issue though. I’ve been where you are where I either freeze or get weirdly defensive and not want to talk about something I may have said earlier. I’ve also written down questions I’ve had and handed them to her. I think any form of communication you try will be helpful and I’m sure your therapist will react positively. It’s also ok to take small steps then no steps and just go at your pace.