Living with violence (from daughter with autism)

[Mach123]

Hi I have a 26 year old daughter with Autism who has violent outbursts. I have cPTSD from CSA. I don't know if any of you can relate to how hard it is to live with violence you can't escape. I've just been through an outburst. Triggering just doesn't do it justice. On the other hand, it's nothing new, and I know I'm not going to be actually hurt but, it's a psychological assault, designed specifically for me, to try and get me as upset as possible. There's no help available trust me, we've met with the state agencies, they are useless beyond paying you money to keep them home, as opposed to institutions. I'm the institution. My wife and I, and the rest of our kids, who had to grow up with her. They are out of the house now except for the youngest boy. One of her sisters, 29, is also Autistic, but meek and compliant. We keep them separate, but hardly have to, the meek one hides from the violent one. I'd hide from her if I could. Throwing things, breaking glass, turning things over, screaming. This is how we live. It's been so long. The only thing the state told us to do was, call the police, they'll subdue her and put her in a straight jacket and force medication in her in a locked ward till she's compliant. How's that for a non choice? Just thought I'd share a little love. Thanks for listening. Alls quiet again now. It's not all the time. In fact it's infrequent. She's fine, unless you try to do something she doesn't want to do.

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes @Mach123 I can relate, though that in itself is not helpful, I'm sorry. :(

a psychological assault, designed specifically for me, to try and get me as upset as possible.

But for this ^^^ I can only say off the top of my head, remember (and believe, therefore process differently) you didn't cause it, can't control it (though you're responses 'may' help or hinder, to some degree), and you can't cure it.

Take care of yourselves, best you can.

 

[Abstract]

My hat off to you March. I would be a total mess. Realising more and more that exposure to even lesser types of aggression really sets off my symptoms. Sending you much support resilience and patience and I truly hope someone gives you better support soon.

 

[hithere]

Hi I have a 26 year old daughter with Autism who has violent outbursts. I have cPTSD from CSA. I don'...

So sorry for this. I had to live with extreme violence growing up that would actually result in death. As an adult I had to live with it too and did not know that I could escape. Your post made me very sad, because 26 years is a long time. I feel for your whole family. I even feel for your child because it must some horrible existence to have uncontrollable rages coursing through your body. I wish autism had a cure. I really do. Honestly, I don't know how I would cope with this...