Really sad and hurt right now. I had a friend that has now completely tossed me aside. They were my sole support other than my T. A little over a week ago she really hurt me by sharing very personal and private stuff about me with a mutual friend. I voiced that it wasn't ok that she did that without first asking permission, she ended up getting mad at me saying I wouldn't let people care about me unless it was on my terms and the way I wanted. I ended the conversation by stating that I wasn't going to continue discussing the topic, which for me is huge. Normally when I feel wronged or betrayed I will go into attack mode, I was really proud of myself for being respectful and only stating why it wasn't ok, that it took away my right to privacy, and then I let the subject drop. I was angry so I took time away from further communicating so that it allowed me to cool down.
Last night I noticed she had deleted and blocked me on Facebook. I messaged her husband and said I was confused as to why she did, that I wasn't sure what I said to make her mad because I hadn't said anything since our conversation over a week ago. She had even congratulated me on my acceptance into school, so this was a surprise. I ended up texting her as per her husbands suggestion and got back a surprising response. She said she felt like I used her and the things she and her husband did for me were unappreciated. That she's trying to help me but she can't. And that this was it, good luck with life. The unappreciated comment isn't the first time she's brought it up, we sat down every time and talked about it and about how I DO appreciate everything they do for me and the support they offer. I constantly said thank you, asked what I could do to help out when I was over at their house, cleaned while I was there, anything I could think of to show and say appreciation. I told her that I wasn't going to send a lengthy response about her feeling used and unappreciated because it had been talked about many times before and didn't feel like I could say anything different to reassure her that I did in fact appreciate the help. I also told her she couldn't save me, that I needed to save myself, all I needed from her was a friend.
She shot that down really quick. So now I have my answer. I've been tossed aside, she's done with me, I will not hear from her again. It hurts, a lot. Like a hole has been punched through my chest. T is all I've got now, T knows this because I've talked to her about it after this friend got mad at me for telling her she crossed a boundary. But T doesn't know that it's definitely done now, this conversation was just had today. I don't know what to do, I can't fix this, clearly it's not worth fixing if she constantly feels unappreciated no matter how hard I try to show her I do. It hurts, it just hurts.
Last night I noticed she had deleted and blocked me on Facebook. I messaged her husband and said I was confused as to why she did, that I wasn't sure what I said to make her mad because I hadn't said anything since our conversation over a week ago. She had even congratulated me on my acceptance into school, so this was a surprise. I ended up texting her as per her husbands suggestion and got back a surprising response. She said she felt like I used her and the things she and her husband did for me were unappreciated. That she's trying to help me but she can't. And that this was it, good luck with life. The unappreciated comment isn't the first time she's brought it up, we sat down every time and talked about it and about how I DO appreciate everything they do for me and the support they offer. I constantly said thank you, asked what I could do to help out when I was over at their house, cleaned while I was there, anything I could think of to show and say appreciation. I told her that I wasn't going to send a lengthy response about her feeling used and unappreciated because it had been talked about many times before and didn't feel like I could say anything different to reassure her that I did in fact appreciate the help. I also told her she couldn't save me, that I needed to save myself, all I needed from her was a friend.
She shot that down really quick. So now I have my answer. I've been tossed aside, she's done with me, I will not hear from her again. It hurts, a lot. Like a hole has been punched through my chest. T is all I've got now, T knows this because I've talked to her about it after this friend got mad at me for telling her she crossed a boundary. But T doesn't know that it's definitely done now, this conversation was just had today. I don't know what to do, I can't fix this, clearly it's not worth fixing if she constantly feels unappreciated no matter how hard I try to show her I do. It hurts, it just hurts.