Death Lost Father And Baby This Weekend

[jesse]

I need a place to get this off my chest. My Father died Friday and the next day I had a miscarriage. I was 6 and 1/2 weeks along with my first pregnancy at 42. My partner has been very supportive and he is very upset too. My Dad was sick but was still not expecting him to die so soon. He fell and hit his head after a long battle wih Parkinsons and dementia. I was really triggered by the end of last week from bullying at work. I feel less activated and more withdrawn. I just don't want to talk to anyone. Thank you.

 

[bell]

That's quite a loss, and I'm so sorry that you have to deal with one of them, much less both so soon together.

Sending a reminder to be extra gentle to yourself during this difficult time.

 

[shimmerz]

Oh Jesse.....I can't possibly imagine how overwhelmed you must be feeling right now. As @bell says, try to be very gentle on yourself and know that I am sending you all the warmth I have to you in what must feel like an incredibly dark time.

Gentle hugs
Shimmerz

 

[jesse]

Thank you bell and shimmerz your kind words are helpful.

 

[Deleted member 20280]

@jesse I cannot begin to imagine your pain at this time. My sincerest thoughts are with you.

Laurie

 

[Wyakin]

@jesse What a terrible time for you. I wish I could help more but all I can send you are my thoughts and support through this time. You are not alone and if you need to talk we are all here.

P.S love your dog!

 

[fly away home]

Oh @jesse how hard this must be for you. Be gentle on yourself. My thoughts are with you.

 

[shell]

@jesse my sympathy goes out to you and your partner, be kind to yourself and allow yourself what you need at this time.

 

[Gingerly]

@jesse My condolences to you and your family. I, too lost my father and had a miscarriage, but not a day apart. My soon to be 92 year old mother was diagnosed over 7 years ago with a little known disease called Lewy Body Dementia. Lewy Body Disease (LBD) refers to both Parkinson’s disease and dementia. She is at the end stage of this disease and life. Can you tell me if your father suffered from this? Again, I am so sorry for your loss.

 

[jesse]

Gingerly yes he did have Lewy Body Dementia as well. I am so sorry your mother suffers from it what a cruel illness. I hope that you find some solace in knowing you are not alone. ((((Hugs)))).

 

[Gingerly]

@jesse, My thoughts to you too ~[DOUBLEPOST=1402230973,1402230843][/DOUBLEPOST]

I hope that you find some solace in knowing you are not alone. ((((Hugs)))).

@jesse Please know the same is true from me to you.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I can identify with everything you are enduring and suffering. Your grief must be overwhelming.

I lost my husband of thirty six years of marriage to Parkinsons and Lewy Body Dementia and he died from severe dementia. So I understand.

You are also mourning and grieving the death of your precious baby and surely must be over loaded with loss at the same time.

Take very good care of you. Be very gentle and kind to yourself in the early grief stages. I was a basket case and was at the end of my rope and had hit rock bottom from being my husbands care giver twenty four seven. He too died too soon. He was only sixty five years old.

Lucky I had a friend that had just recently lost her mother at about the same time that I lost my husband. We supported each other through the last year and it is a great friendship now.

I hope you find others who have gone through what you are going through right with this very complicated grief of both of your losses.

It does get better with time. I am now rebuilding my life and starting over taking baby steps and I pay attention to my needs now more than ever before and I am reaching out to safe others who I can be myself with.

The grief and loss still hit me sometimes so very hard and I sleep with my husbands favorite shirt and pretend I am cuddling him.

Parkinsons and Lewy Body Dementia are insidious and I can so relate to your pain and grief.

Pm me anytime if you need a support person.

I am surely sad for anyone who has gone through this. Losing a baby on top of it is too much pain and grief. Please allow others who are safe to love you and help you through this bitter time.

Try not to allow any false feelings of guilt damage you farther. I was plagued with feelings of guilt and what iffing myself.

I do not do that anymore and I actually beginning to feel real joy at long last.

It will get better but you will go through so much pain to get there. Gentle hugs for you.