Relationship Lost my girlfriend to cptsd

[Deleted member 42534]

me and my girlfriend went through a rough patch, and she suddenly withdrew completely... her love for me is seemingly all gone, with just a lot of resentment towards me left.

She even said that I remind her of her abuser. I am her second relationship, the abuser was the first, so I guess its normal to engage in transference. She was subject to domestic violence for almost 3 years in her past relationship.

I feel like a failure. Its as if she is playing out her past relationship with me - fall in love, withdraw and run away. Its as if I am a carbon copy of her abuser, and she is acting out on this dynamic. Anything I say is a lie for her.

Its such a painful experience to be shut out in such a cruel way.

 

[DharmaGirl]

It is terribly painful, and it is a symptom of PTSD. It has nothing to do with you, you did not fail. I'm sorry you had to go through it.

 

[Andy1]

To be fair I always felt on edge like something is not quite right. Walking on egg shells trying make things perfect. But life is never perfect, shit happens, and boom. When things go bad the ptsd person is useless, its always about.them and how they feel. They are nothing but a burden.

 

[DharmaGirl]

I'm a PTSD person who has spent the last 6 years working hard on getting better. When things go bad, I can usually handle it. It depends on the person with PTSD. If the person is getting therapy and working at getting better, it might just end up working out, but without some kind of help, it is a hard row to hoe.

 

[Spacecadetess]

To be fair I always felt on edge like something is not quite right. Walking on egg shells trying make things perfect. B...

Hi there,
I understand you are angry. If you feel you cannot continue to be supportive, consistent and resilient through this then you guys might be better off apart.
Good luck