It can also help to think whether you find physical fullness difficult in any way and why.
I think I'm OK with that. I'm finding more and more that I can't eat a big plateful in one go, but I can eat the equivalent amount in two platefuls an hour apart, say. I know this is meant to be a healthier way of eating, but it's not a very convenient one. I'm really starting to wonder how I'll manage when I go back to work. I'll have to take a Santa's sack of food with me every day!!
So for me when it came to oil and nuts it was all three of those things.
1. I don't like oily things much and felt very much as you do about nuts. So I found what I needed to do it find ways to introduce them where I did not notice the oiliness or that I was eating them.
2. I guess this links to point 1. I found ways to change the mouthfeel and therefore make them more pleasant for me to eat.
3. For this I guess I found some alternative ways to perceive them and practised thinking of them in that way. Almost like an affirmation. At times that was imagining them feeding muscles (much later on in recovery!) or at others just thinking of the protein in them rather than the oil amongst other things.
This is helpful, thank you! I've been thinking I need to try a physical increase/acclimatisation but I like the idea of combining that with working on my perception. That fits with my general way of doing things. I think I'll focus on nutrient value as well as the protein because that's very important to me too.
By making a vinaigrette instead of just adding oil to my food it helped points 1 and 2. Lemon is an alternative and zest can help too. I also use "fresh" tasting herbs such as rosemary, thyme and sage. It helps with eating nuts and seeds too. Oh and chilli can help too I find.
I also found grinding up nuts or seeds and adding them into food that way helped. Houmous is also a great help as one can have it as a an accompaniment to food or as a snack. You can easily make your own too and if you find it rich add some zest and extra lemon.
This is where I run into my issues with chili and lemon (see above post)! I'm starting to think I might try a little mild chili, since I can have a bit of mild curry powder. Lemon I can have a tiny bit of in hummus or satay, but literally about three drops. Can't have vinegar because of tooth enamel loss... sorry, I know I must be the most awkward person to give suggestions to!
I'm wondering about making my own hummus. Unfortunately it would have to be without garlic (can't believe I've had garlic taken away from me!) so it would be a bit odd, but everything I eat is odd so that's an idea. Maybe with some spring onion? I'll give it a try.
Also I like the idea of the herbs. I suddenly felt inspired to add some ground white pepper yesterday and that made it a bit better. Herbs are a really good idea. And I can eat them!!!!! I can grow them myself, too.
I find oily foods easier to eat as puddings. I therefore found a few ways of preparing them that helped. Baking a piece of fruit and and adding minced nuts and some pure cocoa powder is delicious. You can also add vanilla, oil and lemon. I use Green and Black cocoa as it has no sugar added. Cocoa is excellent for you. Very high in anti oxidants and flavanoids.
Oh, good idea. Chocolate itself is OK for me (but obviously not made into bars with milk and sugar). I find cocoa very bitter but the combination of sweet, bitter and oily is probably the kind of thing I need. I'll try it.
Like Saliorgal said coconut cream could help or you could crush coconut and add it to your food as a sauce. lemon grass and ginger or gilangal are a great way to cut the richness/taste as is chilli and lime.
This crosses with my post above about this. I hadn't thought of ginger. I can have ginger! Also lemongrass, probably. OK, will try.
Can't quite imagine coconut "sauce" on my food, although I can give it a go. Are there any other things you would do with coconut flesh, or do you ever use the milk (the fatty milk from a tin)?
Use more substantial vegetables when you can. Such as carrots, peas and butternut squash rather than cabbage and broccoli.
OK... peas are good. I could have more. Patrick Holford (PH) classes them as non-starchy, which is surprising to me, but I'm not going to argue, I'm just going to eat lots of them before he changes his mind.
The others are definitely starchy (carbs), which according to PH means they have to replace grains in a meal rather than be in addition. But I'm thinking about what you say about eating more beans and that's interesting... I have an equal amount of carbs to protein, so more beans means I can eat more carbs, whether that's grains or starchy vegetables, or both together.
I will have a think about how to become even better friends with beans...
Eating food cold rather than hot is less filling.
Yes, but it's nasty! :p
OK, I do know that I can't afford personal preferences on top of everything else. I'm already making myself eat salad and I don't like raw food. It's a good point, I'll have to make friends with cold food too. (I have been known to warm up my salad before eating it, just so it isn't so very cold!)
Thank you so much for your ideas, and to Sailorgal and piratelady too. I have a number of things to try, and renewed hope, which is wonderful. I really appreciate it.