Midlands, England

[Deleted member 14359]

Sorry folks..you can tell Im new to this...
Ice_fire...would love to meet as above in my last post. Let me know some dates.

 

[Deleted member 14359]

KP the nut...thats a really kind offer. I started here, I guess for real today, I had no one to talk to who understands me and by the end of the day I have two people who do...yeah :tup: Yes Id like to meet.

 

[Mica]

Hi,
I'm new here. I'm from Warwickshire and a little bit apprehensive about making contact.

 

[Deleted member 14359]

Mica

It can be a bit daunting when you are new. I have been on here for a month or so. You will meet (virtually) lots of people who will understand and support you, and vice versa.

How about we spend some time getting to know each other, I will send you an email through the site to get things started. The rest is up to you...NO pressure.

I do not know where you at with things but, take your time, do some research on your condition etc and get to know the benefits this site has to offer. There is loads of advice and support so use it well.

JA9W.

 

[Ice_Fire]

Hi Mica, like JA9W, I've been on the site about a month. I can understand your apprehension about making contact, or even just posting how you feel on the site. Take your time.

Would also like to get to know you, so I'll inbox you if you want?

Ice_Fire

 

[Mica]

Hi JA9W and Ice_Fire, thank you both and yes I would like to get to know you too.

Mica

 

[Meadowsweet]

Hi Mica, Welcome to the site. I'm from the Uk too.

 

[KP the nut]

Hi Mica and welcome.

I'm in Shropshire. A few of us got together in March and it was amazing. We all 'knew' one another from here and when we met in real time it was so comfortable - we were old friends.

Looking forward to knowing you better
KP.

 

[Mica]

Hi Meadowsweet and KP,

Thanks for the warm welcome. I hope to make some new friends here, I don't have many. I suppose that is my own fault because I don't let people in. Trying to change that though.:)

Mica

 

[Site No Good]

Hi I am live Wiltshire but spend most my time in Manchester but would really love to find someone to talk to that's like me. I also don't keep friends easily Xxx

Hello Emily,

I'm in Manchester and suffer with a similar problem of not keeping friends, mostly because if I call them and they do not return my call I feel it is because I am not good enough and that they don't like me. I vow not to call them again so i won't feel that way. Feelings of unworthiness ensue and then if they do ever call I don't answer the call because I have no self esteem left.

People who do not have PTSD do not think like this and assume the other person is busy if they do not answer and therefore the friendship can continue when contact is made again.

I'm lucky enough now to have 2 friends (a married couple), he is ex army and his wife has a very high emotional quotient. Both of them understand me and do their best to make sure when this happens that they persist in their contact with me, they reassure me and I feel worthy again. I imagine I am very hard work for them really and so I worked doubly hard on educating and entertaining their children to give them a break. This way I feel like less of a burden.

Maybe keeping friends is about a trade off? However, finding friends that can offer you as a traumatised individual what you need is the hard part to begin with. xx

 

[southern.belle]

Hi, Im in Hampshire and would love to link up with someone else going through this hell.

 

[KP the nut]

Keep a watch on the events forum and something may come up.

We have had a couple of good meet ups, one in Birmingham and one in York. Those are in addition to some of us meeting one to one. Yes, it is scary, but I have made a good friends.