More Anxious During The Day?

[Misul]

Does anyone have an increase in symptoms during the day? I can only begin to relax around evening. It's not that I don't *like* the day time, I just feel more calm at night and I can't make sense of it.

Misul

 

[franciemarnie]

My feeling anxious is the other way around.

I theorize that since my trauma happened at night, that is why I get more anxious then versus the day. I can meditate fine during the day. At night, I feel too vulnerable to relax. I don't drink anything with caffeine, etc. Also, I have had decades of insomnia so I get apprehensive of possible hours alone trying to sleep or getting back to sleep.

 

[Misul]

I had definitely considered that, but my abuse happened during the day and the night. In fact, evening is when my step-father came home from work so was a time to fear. I'm wondering if this is a secondary symptom related to sensory issues. I have many many sensory issues and am overstimulated easily. It seems like the hustle and bustle of the day is too much for me or something.

And then, when I think about it, my most difficult times recently were when I was trying to work. I was really sick for a long time but forcing myself to work anyways so I wonder if my brain associates daytime with that kind of stress?

I'm so sorry you're unable to relax at night. I wish I could do something for all of you with insomnia. I had it before and it's so awful.

 

[Tanishq]

Yes, Misul. Same here. I rarely feel relaxed during day. It happens for couple of mins. Normally I feel lighter during night. Understand where you come from.

I think, it is because during day we think we have to work a lot. We have so many issues ongoing.

 

[Tanishq]

'm wondering if this is a secondary symptom related to sensory issues.

It sounds our abuse has affected a lot. It is like we are on alert all the time. If someone gets abused constantly on the same, then it can become very traumatic, which has happened to us. I do hate evening. But I think later we will get some sleep, so tomorrow will be better.

Misul, Do you think changing your thoughts about day and night can help you getting less anxious?

For example, Could you try thinking this way? This is morning, Now I will start my day with the way I like. I am freed.

Let me know if this helps.

 

[Misul]

That's what I've been trying to do. I think I feel overwhelmed that there is an entire day ahead of me because getting through each day is very difficult lately. I try to fill my time with hobbies and special things but I still end up very bored and emotional.

 

[Tanishq]

Misul, I do feel overwhelmed instantly.

That is great that you are filling your time with special hobbies. That will work for you. Slowly you will overcome and eventually have success. :)

 

[Ricanoland]

I'm not sure when I ever feel relaxed, but I have to agree for me the day time is the worst it takes a lot of energy just to function at a level acceptable to society lol

 

[just me here]

My days are getting better because I am alert and able to steer my thoughts away from triggers and depression and things like that but my nights are getting worse because my nightmares seem to be making up for the stresses and triggers I avoid during the day.

I think I would trade you straight across for peaceful nights and to not wake up feeling like I am being punished for everything I have ever done wrong in this world.

You say you had insomnia in the past, don't you think being calmer at night is an improved state of being?

 

[Misul]

No, it's not improved, it's just different. I can't function during the day which means it's hard to get anything done. By the time I'm calm enough to go out, it's too late. I can't see at night. It's just swapping certain hours of anxiety for different hours. And most of my night is spent asleep so I have less hours of calm. I am not changing my schedule to fit my anxiety; life should NOT revolve around our symptoms IMO. I need daylight anyways or else I get depressive symptoms (I have SAD). Being calmer at night doesn't mean I am symptom-free. I constantly have nightmares and am very lonely. Even if I sleep, I'm never rested since my chronic health issues make me constantly feel as if I haven't slept for three days straight.

 

[Abstract]

I was going to say it is opposite for me but as I was reading I realised it is more complicated than that. Its a different type of anxiety. During the day it tends to be more related to managing to function and do things but in the evening it is that random intense suspended anxiety.

In other words if I did absolutely nothing the whole day (it happens!) then the evenings would be worse.

 

[paralyzed]

Yea I know how you feel Misul. Daytime makes me so anxious it's hard to get up, hard to work. I feel like my coworkers are out to get me. I've been in several abusive relationships but the most recent one really broke me emotionally. Usually I could just bounce back after a while but not this one. Sleeping was the only time I could truely get away from it all and sometimes I couldn't.