My husband told me nothing about his deployments either. He just kept on sticking his hand up to go on more as it was easier than trying to adjust to life back home. He has been diagnosed with adjustment disorder as well. His last deployment was to Iraq, he crashed big time and I went to army welfare and he came home early. I was terrified what he would do to himself so far from home with a loaded a weapon. His calls home scared me so much and he was so far away with people who really didn't know him that well to see that he was in trouble. I have paid the price ever since. He has not trusted me and done so much to punish me ever since. My therapist once asked me if I could go back now and make a different decision would I, my answer at the time was "no, of course not", but now I really don't know.
Everyone says don't take his actions personally, but I struggle everyday with that. I know he resents the fact that it is all on his military record, he would rather have kept it hidden. He will do anything now to not have to face it.
