RussellSue
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Yesterday, my husband had superhero confidence, and the track record to go with it. Today, he's a wreck - overwhelmed with work and school, frustrated with all the little things that have to do with our strange little complicated life here in New Mexico, and he feels like a failure at everything he is doing.
What happened? I had a bad day, yesterday.
This has happened 3 times since August. It may have happened before that, too, but I am only now catching on.
Of course, I am talking to him and trying to remind him that he's doing awesome but he is not consolable. I made dinner, got him some tea, sang a bunch of dumb songs and he was cordial enough to crack a smile but he wasn't feeling it.
I know he took a dive in response to my situation, yesterday, which was a pain problem - I didn't even cry for goodness sake. But it doesn't matter. If I crash in any way, he comes tumbling after.
I imagine this is common in relationships but is this something I just need to accept or is there anything I can do to stop him from taking on my junk? He does not get like this on his own and I do feel guilty about it but short of pretending to be alright when I am not (which I am convinced is not healthy for the relationship as a whole), I don't know what I can do.
Thoughts, ideas, arguments???
What happened? I had a bad day, yesterday.
This has happened 3 times since August. It may have happened before that, too, but I am only now catching on.
Of course, I am talking to him and trying to remind him that he's doing awesome but he is not consolable. I made dinner, got him some tea, sang a bunch of dumb songs and he was cordial enough to crack a smile but he wasn't feeling it.
I know he took a dive in response to my situation, yesterday, which was a pain problem - I didn't even cry for goodness sake. But it doesn't matter. If I crash in any way, he comes tumbling after.
I imagine this is common in relationships but is this something I just need to accept or is there anything I can do to stop him from taking on my junk? He does not get like this on his own and I do feel guilty about it but short of pretending to be alright when I am not (which I am convinced is not healthy for the relationship as a whole), I don't know what I can do.
Thoughts, ideas, arguments???