General My Marriage - A Direction of Impact Nearing

[anthony]

1) How does Logan treat Kerrie Anne - is it normal teenage rebellion or does he truy dislike her and if so, why?

I would say Logan treats Kerrie equally as Kerrie treats Logan. If Kerrie is nice to him, he is nice to her. If Kerrie is nasty to him, he is nasty to her. When she has bouts of niceness towards him, suddenly his whole attitude changes, and he responds. The moment she attacks him again, he defies her.

2) does Kerrie Ann treat Logan so badly that she is pushing him away from you both and making him respond negatively to her

I think the first answered that one.

would Logan and Kerrie ever get so angry at each other that they would take it out on the other boys?

No, neither would take it out on the boys severely, though both obviously have a time of moodiness afterwards, so that does filter down in some regards by both, but nothing detrimental. If anything, the little one's can put a smile on their faces.

Are you seeing anybody down there or have you at least stayed in touch with someone you can talk to about all of this?

No, I am not seeing a counsellor or the like. I could, but I have talked this all out already... and feel much better about it all.

but remember that if you can't- seperate homes aren't always a bad thing.

Nothing will be getting worked out, I have reviewed it all over and over, and won't be changing my mind on this situation. Seperate homes it will be, and most likely Kerrie and I will get on better as a result. She is simply too controling for me, to high strung, to much anger as a result... it won't work. I doubt any relationship would work for Kerrie long term until she actually does something to help herself with her control and anger issues.

 

[superd]

Anthony

I may have missed this in the others' posts, but have you considered the possibility that your wife has holdover anger issues towards you for your actions during the uncontrolled PTSD days? My wife is in recovery and is doing great, but I still have deep anger issues with her for some of the things she did to me before she was diagnosed, and those will have to be dealt with at some point. In my case, when wife is having a hard time, I tend to become the caregiver and focus on the issue at hand, but when she is doing well, I then go back to thinking: now that she's ok, she wants to just skip along as if nothing had ever happened, and that isn't going to cut it, she will have to pay somehow for what she did to me way back when, etc., and that some part of me wants her to be hurt (not physically, emotionally) like she hurt me. :mad:

Just a thought...either way it is her burden to relieve herself of, as there is nothing you can do on that end...you can only apologize so many times...

 

[anthony]

Kerrie moved with me on that one already... been through that. Took her a while to let go of the PTSD issues, but she did it. Her anger and control issues where present before I met her, not during our relationship. Her family and friends have confirmed that many a times.

 

[Andrea42]

dont want to stir anything up...but is it possible for one to get fed up and not want anything to do with the person you love anymore?? i see that things are going very bad for you Anthony...but are you at the point where you feel done? Kerrie Ann has not been very supportive it seems and she left. What is she going through at the moment?! Does she miss her family?? her husband? what happened for it to be this way?! its horrible :( specially right after having the baby....this saddens me

 

[anthony]

The marriage is over Andrea, not much left to discuss really. We will live apart and raise the kids together. I will move closer to my children at the end of the year to be with them and look after them jointly with Kerrie.

 

[Jen]

At least you will be closer to the children Anthony!
Have you seen them at all since Kerri Anne left? This must be so hard on you with a new baby!
Jen

 

[jods]

At least you both know where you stand now, that must be a relief for both of you.

Is your eldest ok with moving again?

I'm glad that your younger boys will get to spend quality time with both of their parents, that's a huge bonus for all.

Hope you are taking care of yourself while this is going on or I'll have to send Humphrey over there to kick your butt!!

 

[hannah]

Anthony so sorry to read your post that your marriage is over, please take care and may kerrie ann and the children also be safe hugs hannah x

 

[Andrea42]

The marriage is over Andrea, not much left to discuss really.

so you have both decided to go your seperate ways?! or is it you just saying that? or that wants that or her??? i dont undertsand... this had to have been going on for a while... i know you guys didnt wake up one morning and decided you didnt want to be marriage to each other anymore :( its so sad... and it makes me think...you and Kerrie-Ann always spoke of how hard things would get and that support and undertsand was so important and it almost seemed like you guys had all that... and now this happens..... i guess i am a bit confused..... why give up :( i am not asking questions here.... i would just hate to be in this situation specially with the new baby :(

 

[Deleted member 3]

This is the time when things are better left unsaid. Although I do all appreciate the input.....it has been interesting reading about myself in the third party and all, thanks.

 

[Jen]

Hi Kerri Anne sorry to hear things arent good between you guys.
Hope you are holding up ok.
Jen

 

[anthony]

I think its hard on us both Jen... to say the least. I think we will be better friends as time goes on than involved together. I certainly need a clean break with PTSD in toe, as I am fighting constantly to keep that in check at present.... interesting, but doing it pretty well.