My Maternal Grandpa Died And My Crazy Aunt Is In Her Full Craziness!

[kdblossom]

I feel my 91 year Grandpa's death was actually a blessing his quality of life was poor and he lived a very full life.

My maternal aunt told my maternal uncle I hate her (learned this Saturday). I don't hate her I just can't stand her craziness (she's bad Bi-polar). Her list of complaints about me is ever changing. I am intolerant of other peoples religion because she is Buddhist and I will not let her chant in front of me (it is a trigger but she does not know I have PTSD). Her other big complaint is I am currently in control of my Great-grandma's grandmother clock. She gave it to my now dead mother for safe keeping 16+ years ago. My Mom and I were living in the same house when she died (7+ years ago) and it has been in my control ever since. When she gave it to Mom it did not run. I thought there was something really bad wrong with it. The only thing that was wrong with it was long term neglect. It just need to be oiled really bad. It is know do to age considered to be vey fragile. I have put it on permanent loan to my paternal aunt. She will make sure it gets the type of care it now needs do to its fragile state and can well afford that care! Plus, she really loves that clock!

We are having a memorial service for Grandpa Saturday. Wish me lucked. My PTSD is kicking my Butt for first time in months!

 

[CraftyCath]

Hi Kdblossom,

I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope you get through the service without too much trouble. Keep using grounding techniques and breathing.

Thinking of you. :hug:

 

[The Albatross]

Kd, my condolences for you and your family's loss. My father's family had weapons grade crazy on full display when I had to go to his funeral and deal with the subsequent estate issues. Try to give yourself a bit of breathing room, and focus on the reason you're there... for honoring your Grandpa. Try to take a back seat to the rest and don't get sucked in to the dynamic. I bit my tongue nearly in half, but got through it. You can too.

 

[Froggie]

My deepest sympathies (((kdblossom))), may you have the force to create a psych barrier between you and your aunt. Will burn a candle for you so you be surrounded by healing Light.

 

[rockyspine]

I'm sorry about the loss of your grandpa, and also for the surrounding stresses. Stay strong and honour your grandpa, and try to tune the others out. :)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am so very sorry you lost your grandpa. I recently lost my husband and had to deal with crazymakers myself. Stay strong and you will get through it. I am so sorry you have to deal with the insanity on top of your grieving. Big hugs.

 

[Britt.f7]

I'm so sorry for your loss, and the craziness on top of it.

My aunts were full blown crazy when my grandmother was dying and when she passed away. I happened to be the scapegoat for their craziness so I stayed away. To this day I'm not even sure what was wrong with them to act the way they did. Grief, perhaps, I understand it is different in everyone. Their's just happened to show up in sheer lunacy. I'm positive they didn't see that their behavior was that way. I doubt your aunt does either.

So, you have to take care of yourself. Deep breaths, half hearing. Whatever your grounding techniques are.

BTW, I would not like the chanting. Not triggers for me. It would just make me uncomfortable, no matter what the religion was.

My heart goes out to you.