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Relationship My Ptsd Boyfriend

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Morgs

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So I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now. I met him while he had 6 months left in the marines. The last two months he was in the marines I went down there to stay with him. Things went bad. He tried committing suicide twice and got into a lot of trouble. I ended up going back home while he had a week left. When it was finally time for him to get out he came up to my home to live with me. Everything was amazing. We were finally going to get out life started together. We lived with
My parents for about a month then we got our own house. Things were still great until Christmas. He started to get angry and mean. I didn't know why so I kept pushing his buttons trying to figure out how he could be so hot and cold. it ended up getting really bad and he left to go back to Pennsylvania. A few days after Christmas he came back. We worked things about and we were great again. I tried talking to him about what happened over seas and he only told me some things because he doesn't like to talk about it. I asked him if he wanted to talk to someone for the PTSD. He told me he didn't have a problem he was fine. So I let it go and just tried to find the signs when he was having a bad day. A few months went by and he just started getting angrier and meaner. Our dog didn't even like him because of how mean he was. He decided to take a weekend and go visit some of his marine buddies. I thought it would be a good idea. When he got back things got worse. He started drinking a lot and not being himself. He woke up on a Tuesday and decided he didn't want to be with me and left. I wasn't going to let that happened because I knew what was going on from past experiences. So I gave him his space for a few days then
Saw him. Things were good again. We planned on moving and having a new start. But then he went back to his parents for a week. He went and seen his friends at Penn state. They stayed out until 3 in the morning drinking. The next day I sent him a text saying how much I love him and we're going to fix our relationship and more. He called me and said he changed his mind. He wants to move to Florida now and he's done sacrificing for me. He is doing
Everything in his power not to be with me. I've never seen him like this. He used to be so Happy and nothing could go wrong. Now he's so angry and so hot and cold. I have no idea what to do. If I text him I annoy him and make him angrier. But I know no one else will get him the help and I don't want to lose him.
 
@Morgs At the top of this forum are a video series that will give you a basic crash course in the military and PTSD that will help you understand what's going on.

You nor anyone can get him the help......he needs to want it and get it himself.

I know you don't want to lose him but you cannot make him want to be with you today....he has to want it. Yes, he will isolate and need time for himself but whether he does that with you in his life or not is his decision.

The only person who can change him is himself, not you.

Read everything here. Ask questions and we will share our stories with you. You are not alone. But most of all.....take care of you.
 
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