General My Sufferer Has Feelings Of Inferiority And Jealousy Towards Me, Help?

[RecedingMoonlight]

You know what though? None of that is your fault, or really your problem to fix.

Do you understand...

Yeah, see now and I understand. And for years I tell myself the same thing: it's not my fault. I'm just at a loss I guess of how to set this boundary? I guess I have to discipline myself because whenever she has a triggered reaction I instinctively try to help out of habit. I'm gonna try to push myself to just set a firm block because honestly, it's hard to disconnect myself from her distorted reality sometimes, but I need to do it for my sake. Like...yes, you're lonely, you're sad, you feel disconnected. That's great, but I can't do anything about that. I don't have the answer. I can only encourage her forward from a distance and let her learn how to stand up and walk on her own already.

 

[RecedingMoonlight]

Our triggers are OUR responsibility. Absolutely no one else's. Ever.

You are not responsible for h...

You're right too, and thank you for saying that. I needed to be slapped that across the face. It's not my fault. Yes, people should be mindful around her with her triggers, but life is not going to do that. She's going to be exposed to those things regardless and that's just life. She needs to unlearn these behaviors and I'm almost considering calling her therapist about her therapy because I'm pretty much 100% done with feeling awful about having friends. Whether she's feeling these things on purpose or not doesn't matter. If she believes people are 'making' her feel that way and she has no control over it, I'm going to have to shove in her face the document that tells her she has the "control fallacy" cognitive distortion, among the dozens she has.

Thank you, all of you. :) I needed to be told all this