I was in a distanced relationship with a sufferer that ended badly, as they do, a year and a half ago. There’s a ferry between us and some distance. I have a strict no contact and a policy that I don’t want to hear about anything that she’s doing from mutual friends. Tonight I was visiting a friend and she mentioned that she’s sees my ex all the time, which threw me off. After leaving my friends place I’m pretty sure I drove past my ex. I’ve come to find out that she’s been coming to my hometown, possibly dating someone from here for months now. On one hand I ask for no updates, on the other I feel it would have been appropriate to at least give me a heads up by one of my friends. This is a person I had to go to therapy because of the adverse effects of being a supporter and the online harassment that happens by her friends. I was really not expecting this and Im surprised how much of a loop this has throw me for. I don’t feel safe in places that I could potentially run into her and now there she is again… I don’t know what to do. If I can even do anything at all…