Narcissists Using Sports Teams And Results As An Excuse To Needle People?

[Anarchy]

This may say may about me than it does about narcs - I wouldn't even cross the road to watch a sports match, and the narc games teacher at school had given up on trying to force me to participate, by the time I was about 14 or 15...

It just occured to me that all of the vociferous followers of sports teams and sportring events, that I've come accross - were narcs, and used sport as an excuse to needle people.

Any thoughts?

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[Sandstone]

Sounds like twaddle to me. Are you seriously suggesting all sports fans have a diagnosable condition? "an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others."

Personally _ I can't abide team sports

 

[Friday]

I'm fairly certain the narcissists you knew also brushed their teeth, wore shoes, etc.. They may also have drunk beer at the pub, or driven nice cars, etc.

There's a danger is psych/med research that profs do their best to pound into student heads, and still fail at occasionally, as studies make it all the way to peer review before being booted as bad science : Correlation is not Causation.

Human minds look for patterns. It's how we see the edge of objects, distinguish language from sound, etc. We're wired to do it... But it also causes us to see patterns where none exist, or to over attribute.

If you looked in detail at your abuser's lives there are undoubtedly dozens of things, and possibly hundreds of things, that they all have in common. To determine what is disorder-specific, however, one would need to first cross everything off that list that everyone else also does, and then the things of that list that most to a significant percentage do. ((Or do a different study entirely to gauge the percentage of people who do XYZ who have whatever disorder.))

Your narcissists may have all been sports fans. Others may be opera fans. Doesn't mean that there's anything inherently narcissistic about sports or opera, or the rest of the people who are fans of either.

 

[Recovery4Me]

:wideeyed::roflmao::);):hug: Your wit and musing is awesome!:laugh: I do so crack up over your dry humor and paradoxical intentional pondering.

 

[Ronin]

I was about to say any person deciding to hurt someone else can use pretty much anything to do so and figuring patterns may be useful only for your specific recovery and to keep safe from certain things if you know they've been unsafe for you, @Anarchy, but Friday said it so much better.

 

[NarcSis]

I'm a huge sports fan. I've got my team who give me inspiration and help me to cope. I wear their shirts, I own memorabilia and when I could afford it, I would go to watch my team play. I'm definitely not a narc.

When you've been hurt by someone, you are always wary of that hurt, so you look for it everywhere you gaze...and if you want to see it, you will. That's the nature of how hurt can cloud our vision. It's really difficult with PTSD to know when we're seeing the danger when the danger isn't actually there, but it's something that, if we work on learning how to trust even just in tiny increments, we make our way toward coping better.

I like Friday's explanation. Wishing you better days. :)

 

[anonymous]

"All the narcissists I've known have been enthusiastic about sports."
"All narcissists must be enthusiastic about sports."
"Anyone enthusiastic about sports must be a narcissist."

Three very different statements and quite a leap from the first one to either of the second two.

 

[Kintsugi]

Dear anon,

Nail
Head
Struck.

:D